It’s the same with a Charlotte Mason education. Charlotte described her philosophy of education in three words—three legs of a stool, if you will.
“Education is a discipline—that is, the discipline of the good habits in which the child is trained. Education is a life, nourished upon ideas; and education is an atmosphere—that is, the child breathes the atmosphere emanating from his parents; that of the ideas which rule their own lives” (Vol. 2, p. 247).
Discipline, life, atmosphere—all three are necessary for a well-balanced education. You become unbalanced when you focus on one above the others. “We sometimes err, I think, in taking a part for the whole” (Vol. 3, p. 148).
The “education is an atmosphere” part, perhaps, pleases us most. It is very inviting to picture your child absorbing sunshine and green fields, pleasant rooms and good pictures, and think that such an atmosphere must surely shape who he will become. Yes, it will; but more is needed.
When you emphasize only a good atmosphere, the child can begin to think that no work is needed on his part. As Charlotte described the tendency, “they expect life to drop into them like drops into a rain-tub, without effort or intention on their part” (Vol. 3, p. 150).
True education must include some definite effort on the student’s part and some definite training from the teacher. So you must be sure to include the aspect of “education is a discipline” too—the discipline of good habits.
Training your child in good habits is a valuable endowment that will serve him well into his adult years and give you smooth and easy days in the meantime. It is a necessary second leg to the stool.
But you can’t put all of the weight of your child’s education on this leg of the stool either. Too much emphasis on habit training can result in an unhealthy focus on outward behavior. You can lose sight of your child as a whole person and the goal of his growth in all aspects of life. “We must not make a fetish of habit; education is a life as well as a discipline” (Vol. 1, p. 192).
Living ideas are like food that nourishes your child’s mind and heart. An ample supply served up at regular intervals is your goal.
But a constant stream of new ideas can be intellectually exhausting. Your child needs time to process, to digest those ideas and determine which ones to accept and which to reject. He needs the space in the atmosphere of your home to ponder the ideas he observes and embrace the ones that motivate him to form his own habits.
All three legs of the stool are necessary—atmosphere, discipline, and life. Give your child all three and you will both enjoy a well-balanced education.