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Is Charlotte Mason a Gentle Approach?, Part 2

Homeschool family gentle walk on the beachLast week we started a discussion on whether Charlotte Mason’s approach should be described as “gentle.” We hear that description used a lot, but is it accurate?

Much of the answer depends on how you define “gentle.”

In the previous post we looked at reasons her methods would not be considered gentle; she expected a lot from the children. Studying with Charlotte was not a cake walk. But at the same time, it was not a harsh or tedious existence.

Charlotte Mason on “Gentleness”

In my search of Charlotte’s writings, I looked specifically for her comments on gentleness. Is there a place for gentleness in a Charlotte Mason education? Let’s go directly to the source and see what Charlotte herself said about “gentle.”

  • A pushy, domineering attitude can produce mental fret and discomfort in those around us.

    “Persons hurt in Mind suffer in Body—Gentleness.—But there are other ways of doing bodily hurt to the people we have to do with than by overworking, underfeeding, or directly misusing them. If you hurt people in mind they suffer in body, and it is for this reason that we should not push in a crowd to get the best place—should not jostle others to get the best share of what is going, even if it be a good sermon, should give place gently in walking the streets, should make room on public seats or in railway carriages for others who wish to sit. If we are ungentle in such small matters, we may not do such direct hurt to the persons of others as would make a surgeon necessary, but we produce a state of mental fret and discomfort which is really more wearing. We all know how soothing is the presence of a gentle person in a room; a person whose tone of voice and whose movements show that he has imagination, that he realises the presence of other people whose comfort he would not willingly destroy” (Vol. 4, Book 1, p. 142).

  • Gentleness comes from honor. Respecting the child as a person should result in gentleness toward him.

    “Honour begets gentleness to the persons of others, courteous attention to their words, however dull and prosy they may seem to us, and deference towards their opinions, however foolish we may think them. The person whose rash opinions are received with deference is ready to hear the other side of the question and becomes open to conviction” (Vol. 4, Book 1, p. 146).

  • Gentleness does not equal weakness or apathy. It is a supreme force that parents can use in shaping their children.

    “It is in the force of all-mighty gentleness that parents are supreme; not feebleness, not inertness—there is no strength in these; but purposeful, determined gentleness, which carries its point, only ‘for it is right’ ” (Vol. 5, p. 201).

So, though I could not find the exact phrase “gentle art of learning” in Charlotte’s six volumes, we can piece together from her comments that a gentle attitude is important. But a proper understanding of gentleness is paramount.

Gentleness does not mean allowing the children to do whatever they want. It has a purposeful, determined strength that influences those around it to do what is right.

Gentleness does not mean depending solely on the educational atmosphere of the home and hoping the children will maybe learn something as they live and play there. Charlotte expected much mental effort from her students and carefully planned their full and generous curriculum.

Gentleness respects the child as a person. It is not harsh or abrasive even as it encourages the child to reach high, work hard, and appreciate beauty.

So is the Charlotte Mason approach gentle? I find it delightful that in this, as in so many areas, Charlotte’s ideas were well-balanced. What do you think? Leave a comment and let us know.

Karen Andreola: Our Guest Next Week

I’m so thankful for our readers’ comments and suggestions! Last week a fellow CM fan suggested that we ask Karen Andreola for her ideas on this subject of gentleness. Karen’s book, A Charlotte Mason Companion: Personal Reflections on the Gentle Art of Learning, has been so encouraging to many CMers over the years! It was one of the first books I read when I discovered CM 16 years ago.

Well, we were able to contact Mrs. Andreola, and she has graciously consented to share her thoughts in our post next week. We’re in for a treat!

And in the meantime, if you would like another treat, you might spend a little time on her Mother Culture blog. It is a peaceful, encouraging place. Enjoy.

3 Responses to “Is Charlotte Mason a Gentle Approach?, Part 2”

  1. Nanci September 22, 2011 at 2:37 pm #

    This is beautiful! Thank you.

    • Nanci September 24, 2011 at 9:23 am #

      I keep pondering this post…I had to add that I am so glad that we don’t have to rely on our own strength for gentleness, because we would only fail! Thank You, Jesus, that You give us gentleness as the fruit of the Holy Spirit.
      Psalm 18:35 “Your gentleness makes me great” and Isaiah 40:11 “He tends His flock like a shepherd; He gathers the lambs in His arms and carries them close to His heart; He gently leads those that are with young” are such beautiful promises to the believing homeschool mom for our children.

      Thank you for giving me this wonderful, noble idea to ponder and “chew on”this week… it’s just like when we give our children through scripture and living books a beautiful thought.

  2. Kathryn Howard September 23, 2011 at 12:26 pm #

    I am so excited to journey along with you in my CM approach I have to tell you, I was struggling with finding my way, even after 8 years of home educating, and now, through the book by Karen Andreola, and your website and free ebooks, I am so comforted, encouraged and inspired. I have finally found my way. I am applying these beautiful principles to my teaching and methods and it has turned my attitude and experience as a mother/ teacher around for the better! I praise God for leading me to your website and to the CM method. I love the phrase, “Gentle art of learning” because gentleness and a meek and quiet spirit with my children, husband (and everyone else) is my heart’s deep desire. It has also been my greatest challenge in home schooling and parenthood. I know it is God’s desire too, so to find this community of likeminded sisters blesses me beyond measure. Thank you so much for all you are doing to help us. God must be very pleased with you, sweet gal.

    Love, Kathryn

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