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Start: 2025-07-11T00:00:00-05:00
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Tagged: laziness, unmotivated

This topic has 4 replies, 4 voices, and was last updated 8 years, 5 months ago by rhondajennings68.

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January 7, 2017 at 10:16 am
rhondajennings68
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My 9 yr old son continues to be lazy and unmotivated in school (and chores) unless it is something he wants to do. No matter how many times I send him back to redo something, he always seems to give the very least. As a parent, I find this frustrating. As a single parent, I find it sucks energy that I don’t really have.
My son is very, very bright and is very capable. Any suggestions and/or thoughts that I can use to encourage him?
For example, I have to send him back in the bathroom every single time he brushes his teeth to re-brush them. Sometimes I feel like telling him he can just let his teeth rot out! He has been diagnosed on more than one occasion as ADHD. He isn’t on medication (I have tried but gotten terrible results) so we just deal with his distraction and hyperactivity in various ways (no artificial colors, dyes, lots of outdoor time, keeping things simple, etc)

January 7, 2017 at 2:34 pm
Karen Smith
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There are several article series in our Learning Library that explain habit training.
Here are two that may be helpful for your situation:
A Parent’s Business series helps you understand your parental role in teaching your child good habits and transitioning him to be responsible for continuing the habits after they are taught.
The Way of the Will series helps you to understand how to help your child strengthen his will so that he chooses to do what is right.
January 7, 2017 at 3:58 pm
Monica
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Just here to commiserate. My son who just turned 11 is very unmotivated, too. He does the least amount possible to get by. Next year I’m enrolling him in a class online so that he will have another “teacher” to answer to.
January 8, 2017 at 5:30 am
Melanie32
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Hi Rhonda!
The only way to teach children good habits is to do it with them and encourage them as they go until they form those good habits. Forming new habits is hard! I know it’s very difficult for me, much less my child. They need lots of hand holding and pleasant reminders along with plenty of praise when they do something right. It takes time and persistence but it is so worth it in the end! 🙂
Blessings,
Melanie
January 9, 2017 at 12:40 pm
rhondajennings68
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Thanks for the feedback