@stuckersr – I’ve been on this forum for years now and there have been only a handful of posts with hot button issues, often posted by newer forum members. I’ve no problem having dialogue about issues like this respectfully, but if you post on one, don’t be surprised if not everyone agrees with your line of thinking fully. You shared your point of view. I shared mine. It’s fine that we disagree, and it is in no way disrespectful to do so. Dialogue includes disagreements. I understand you’re looking for good books, not a debate, but I think this issue is worthy of discussing.
You wrote:
I don’t understand why kids of any nationality are being taught that books are ‘great books’, when, in the books, the ‘honorable’ characters demean people based on skin color. And I can’t explain that to him.
There is a difference between a sugar-coated book and one that is personally painful. I’m assuming you know the history with Black people in America. He is learning about it too. Reading those books would be akin to being a bully – I will not poke him with a needle, to teach him a lesson.
Perhaps I inferred incorrectly from your posts, which is not unheard of in an online forum, about those who enjoy these books accepting racism. However, I will answer the above question for us, I teach my children the ‘great books’ because the “honorable” and the “dishonorable” characters often have something to teach us. No one is perfect and to negate the value of a person or a character based on one flaw, for lack of a better word, would necessitate never learning anything from anyone. There are too many examples of this to list. All characters real or fictional are flawed in some way because of their humanity. That awful sin nature thing coming back. We all have our own perspectives borne out of our personal experiences which will mean that things affect us differently. I guess I am trying to wrap my head around why this particular flaw makes literature untouchable while other flaws are accepted. Personal differences? It’s ok if I don’t get it, but I have black friends who have enjoyed these books as much as I have. Perhaps, I’ll chat with a couple of friends to see if they can shed some light for me in some way.
I know the history of black people in America. I’ve traveled to Goree Island and other parts of Senegal, W. Africa and learned about the role Africans themselves played in the slave trade. That is just as tragic. Slavery, segregation, racism – all of it is a travesty. I’m just simply thinking all this through and can’t think of a single character flaw that would make a whole section of great books off limits for my family. By way of personal example, I loved Francine Rivers’ Redeeming Love. It was a tough read for me because of my past, but I still extracted great value from this book. Did it “poke me with a needle in places”, absolutely, but it was probably the best example of God’s redemption in this area of my life. For that, I’m grateful.
I honestly mean no disrespect toward your point of view. I agree with the scripture that hating is sin. That’s my point. One can hate within his own race as easily as outside of it.
I am not trying to goad you into debate that you aren’t interested in, but simply sharing another point of view.
As for books, I can share some that have been enjoyed in our home around this age, but because my perspective is different, they may not meet your expectations. Perhaps it may give you some to look into. These would be appropriate in our home for 4th – 6th grade or so. I will readily admit that my memory is not terrific, so if there is something offensive in these suggestions, it is unintentional.
- Lassie Come Home
- A Christmas Carol by Dickens
- Follow My Leader by Garfield
- The Cricket of Times Square
- The Hobbitt by Tolkien
- The Borrowers series
- Princess and the Goblin by MacDonald
- Gentle Ben by Morey
Again, I hope you find what you’re looking for.
Blessings,
Christie
ETA –
@TailorMade, I could have written your post in parts, too. Thanks for sharing. Thanks, too, for the book recommendation.
@stuckersr – I can tell that you are a loving mom, while I don’t agree with your methodology, I fully support your right to decide what’s right for your family. My husband and I love our children, too, and we’ve taken a different approach. We’re showing them by books and first hand experiences the ugly side of life while in the shelter of our care. We done ministry in developing third world that showed my children a level of poverty that is unknown here in the USA. It was not pleasant or comfortable for them, but it was life-changing. They have hearts for those less fortunate. In fact, Audio Adrenaline’s “Kings and Queens” song and video have become sort of an anthem in our home. I sincerely wish you the best.