what to do with my child-he is lying!

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  • July 6, 2014 at 6:03 am
    dsulliv1
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     Hi,

    I have an issue that I am not sure how to handle.  My son is 12 and has always been kinda “sneaky”.  Recently, I have caught him in several lies-where he was with his friend, for example.  And he ate a candy bar that was not his and said he didn’t eat it.  The candy bar is not that big of a deal, but overall, I am concerned that he is lying and I am just not sure what to do about it.  I have three other children and have not had this problem before so I am not sure what to do.

    We have a boy 1 year old than him that he has been spending time with, whom I really don’t like.  He is not a christian and I have caught him using inappropriate words.  In the past, we have limited time that my son spends with him, and now I am thinking that maybe not spending anytime with this friend would be a good idea.  however, I know my son will by mad, disappointed and will just mope around the house, doing nothing worhwhiile.

    I am at a loss as to how to handle this situation.  I have already told him that I am scared about his behavior and the lies that come so easily to him.  I told him that I wa sconcerned about his mind and soul and that lying was becoming easy for him.  I a not sure “he got it”  I know that he needs some consequences and he will lose his computer priveldges but I really think he needs something more.

    Any thoughts or wisdom???

    thanks

    pj

    July 6, 2014 at 11:27 am
    KetewaSuleiman
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    Hello , my little advice is that instead of focusing on you child alone, why not help your child and his friend together. Ask the parents of your child’s friend if it is ok to invite him for dinner and take the opportunity to show them both that you care about them and that you want them to continue to be good friends but tell them your concerns. Instill in them why it is wrong to lie and why it is not even necessary to lie if you trust people around you to forgive you even if you go wrong just as god forgives us. After all as God fearing people we should take interest not only in our children but others as well. And remember just supporting your child will not work by logic or commonsense in that when he is corrected he will go to the friend who will “pollute” him again. By helping both of them at the same time with the blessing of god might work. God knows best.

    July 6, 2014 at 3:13 pm
    Wings2fly
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    Following this.  

    http://simplycharlottemason.com/scmforum/topic/dealing-with-lying

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