Prioritizing Habits With Multiple Kids

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  • Michelle
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    I recently purchased Laying Down the Rails and the book for children as well.  I read that I should select one habit to work on and focus on that for 6-8 weeks.  There were some suggestions on how to select the first habit, but what I didn’t find information on was what to do when one child really needs work on one habit and another child needs work on a different habit.  I have 5 kids, and each one really has a different need.  I know some good can be gained by all of us studying a particular habit, but it could essentially take almost a year before getting to the final child’s greatest need.  I’ve thought of starting with the oldest child’s greatest need as one option.  I’ll utimately lay it before the Lord to receive his direction, but I wanted to hear if anyone else has encountered this issue and what they have done about it.  Thanks.

    Tristan
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    I have eight children ages 12, 9, 8, 6, 5, 3, 2, 8mos.  What I’ve found is the following:

    1. I have to focus on the habits I am the worst example in if the children are following that example. 

    2. Then I begin with the habit from the children that will bring the most noticeable difference to the home atmosphere, the most peacefulness. 

    3. With my oldest child or two, if they truly have the habit we are working on as a group, I will encourage and challenge them to tackle a habit for them, with my help. 

    4. We aim to encourage one another in our habit journey, working as a family/team brings a strength and power to habit training.

    It’s not easy and sometimes it seems never-ending.  It is always worth it to work on habits though.  Any improvement, no matter how small, will easy the rails for the entire family.

    kerby
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    I’m going to be watching this thread!  I’m trying to save up for the LDTR resources. 

    I’ve always heard you “just work on one thing” but as mentioned, could never figure out how to actually start w/ many dc and their needs.  Those suggestions Tristan gave are a big help!! 

    After yrs of trying to work on something, not very effectively at times, it’s come down to trying to get them to speak nicely, especially to one another.  Like Tristan mentioned, it’s the “peace” in the home that needs to be had as well.  W/out some kind of peace, then the other issues can’t be worked on.  (I’ve also found that by working on this general issue, it’s helping w/ some of the smaller ones. Wink  Kind of an untinentional 2-for-1 deal.  LOL) 

    K

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