Obedience and discipline

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  • Misty
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    Ok so we have been working on obedience in our home and I am not doing it right or something.  I keep changing my discipline which is the MAIN problem.  Here’s why though; I can’t find something that will work for all ages and anywhere.  Or two types of discipline one for the older ones and one for the young ones. 

    BUT the main thing is I need to be able to do it anywhere, really you know in the car, the house, at the store, at grandmas etc.

    Also, I want this to work for all types of disobedience, from direct decisions to not listen, back talking, not following through.. you know what I mean.  I have 13, 12, 10, 7.5, 5 (boys) and 2.5 & 1yr girls. (BTW I get the little one Wink).

    What have you done that’s worked for you.  And not only worked but you’ve been able to stick with it.  I can’t have something that is going to take forever, cause that’s the trap I fall into and then I’m trying to disapline one and there are 2 more doing something that need to be dealt with.  So I need it to be swift and effective.

    Looking for suggestions, comments or just advice.  I know this is ME 1st, them 2nd.  But I need something that sticks.  Thanks Misty

    JenniferM
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    Well, I am no expert.  You have way more experience as a parent than I (mine are 6 and 4), but I know that the most effective “discipline” for us are those “natural” consequences.  They may not be completely natural, but they are logical.  For instance, if a child is rude at the table, we may remind her or him what is appropriate, but if it continues then she or he may have to leave (and eat alone later).  If a child is being disagreeable during a family activity, he or she may have to leave the room. If my children are arguing/fighting and I need to be cooking dinner instead of refereeing (is that a word?), I simply bring them into the kitchen where I am.   I don’t see these consequences as too harsh, and often the child will protest, but they are effective in stopping inappropriate behavior.  

    My children are not perfect, and neither am I.  I have to remember this often!

    Jennifer

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