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Need some natural/logical consequences
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We are redoing our If-Then chart to have more natural and logical consequences, and we are in need of some ideas. We are having trouble with disobeying, sassing, and lying. What are some good natural consequences for these? My kids are 7, nearly 6, 3 1/2, and 1.
Thanks, all!
Have you checked out Creative Correction by Lisa Welchel? The first time I read it I was so excited for my kids to be old enough to disobey in those ways just so I could use her ideas! One did backfire on me though- I have one who is a little mommy and can run our house as well as I can so when she was constantly mommying her little sister I said, “Okay, if you are going to be her mommy today you can do everything a mommy does like clean up after her, make her lunch, and take care of her all day.” Her response was “Okay!”. But I promise, she has lots of good ideas. I also use vinegar on the tongue for sassing (bad words, rude language, screaming, etc). I just dip a spoon in my jug and pull it out so it only coats the spoon, none on the spoon (a friend’s husband left it on the spoon and his son threw up!). I hold it in their mouth the entire time I am explaining what they did and why they shouldn’t and what they need to do next time. Very gross and completely harmless. Now when they are approaching sassy I just put the jug on the counter and peace reigns again! I am interested to see what other’s ideas are!
I’m not great with coming up with these, but here are a few that I’ve used successfully. Not all of these are related to the issues you mentioned, but I share it for what its worth.
Vinegar on tongue as mentioned above
Jumping/Standing on Furniture – No use of furniture for x amount of time
Failing to take out garbage – wash the garbage cans
Failing to pick up your “stuff” – I quietly put it into the redemption box and they have buy it back with allowance $$$
HTH,
Christie
Technically speaking, none of those are technical natural OR logical consquences … they’re punishments. 🙂 But sometimes the natural consequences don’t work, or don’t work in a timely fashion (for example, the natural consequence of lying is that no one believes you when you tell the truth … but that’s not really a very useful discipline tool!).
This thread on WTM has some good suggestions for logical consequences for lying: http://www.welltrainedmind.com/forums/showthread.php?t=151673
There was a book written by or based on the research of Alfred Adler that I read for a classroom management class in college about natural and logical consequences…this was more than ten years ago so I hope you could find his info with a little looking around. Anyways, I remember things like if you lie people naturally don’t want to hear you speak so silence for a period of time. Other things like not putting a dish away after you were asked to resulted in putting the dish in and out of the cabinet 30 times. I had a child who had a hard time controlling his mouth so we purchased a mouth guard from the sporting good store for him to wear so that he would have to stop and think about what he was going to say before he took it out of his mouth ( we did this in good humor around the house to help him slow down) hope this is somewhat helpful.
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