Inconsistent parenting/schedule

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  • Tonia Chin

    Hello! I’m a mom of 3 (plus sometimes my 3 steps) 5, 4, 2
    i have been using Our Preschool for about 8 months now. I love all of the suggestions and activities. My 4 year old is in VPK so I could start working individually with my 5 year old.
    The problem is, I’m inconsistent. I’ve learned much in the way of parenting and have made some big changes. But my husband and I both come from trauma and it has been very difficult. The calm peaceful home mentioned in Charlotte mason books is very slow coming. That said, we have worked on some habit training, obedience, chores, but I can’t seem to find a routine. I know I can do it as I’ve done it before for different areas of my life as well as when my oldest was a baby and I had only my steps and a young one. I’m just not sure where to start…

    our lives tend to revolve around my husbands work schedule and when I consider changing that, I have a hard time because I know if they go to bed earlier they won’t see much of him unless he has a day off. His schedule is constantly changing and we often have surprise days where he’s home early and I’m completely thrown off.

    this probably seems like several topics in one. but everything feels so connected. For instance the kids often go to bed late, leaving me with no energy and no time for self reflection or preparing for the next day. Then we sleep in ( which I know can be normal for homeschool families) but then outside commitments force us to wake up early on some days meaning less sleep for everyone.

    All of these things have led to some bad habits and bad behavior. I know I am responsible and want to do what’s right, especially since my oldest will be 6 in August and I need to start more formal learning.
    Has anyone been here? Any advice or maybe a starting point? Prayer and commiseration also welcome 🫣😅


    Here are a few thoughts. I’ll try to come back later with more time too;)

    If I’m up on vitimins and have no newborn I get up 1/2 to 1 hr ahead of kids to pray read Bible, do laundry and/or plan.
    <p style=”text-align: left;”>It works best for me to plan once a week like Friday afternoon or Sunday afternoon.</p>
    We don’t always get to bed early either. I try to get everyone up at the same time daily (7 am here but sometimes 7:30) and we have a morning routine that starts then.

    We limit outside activities other then church and playing/ working with cousins and visiting family that is 2 hrs away.

    1st grade only needs to take 1-2 hrs. Pick the same time every day and try to stick to it. Then child will know what to expect.


    Tonia Chin

    Thank you so much for this! I did put her in ballet and my husband wants to put her in soccer. She’s so active and has SPD. But since summer is coming some of our other weekly commitments like Bible Study and Wednesday night Awana will be over. I plan to continue through the summer with the delightful reading kit since I just started it.

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