Does obedience *really* happen?

IMHO-It is reasonable if you don’t have a child that is strong willed or with  ODD.  (Oppositional Defiant Disorder). Then you are talking a whole new ballgame.  It will make you crazy expecting him to obey 24 hrs a day. With ODD they say “NO”  to just about everything you say. They don’t see the world the same way you see it.  

  There are kids who have problems that it doesn’t matter how good your parenting skills are you are going to have a problem no matter what.

  Some is child training and others have problems that need to take lots of time to find out which correction in the situation works best.  Sometimes it just doesn’t work even if it worked for you in the past.  Trust me even with all the consistancy. You can be consistant but that doesn’t mean DC isn’t going to have a meltdown almost each and every time you correct his behavior.  Hence not obeying… 🙂

  I do agree with the above advice if they don’t have problems.  

  I have a child like this and beat myself up for years thinking I was such a bad parent. I read all the books mentioned above and tried everyones advice many times.  I have even had to explain myself when others just said, “I should take him out to the woodshed!”   so, IMHO read several books, get great advice and see what works but if you have tried everything and exhausted your resources then chalk it up as experiance and don’t beat yourself up for it.   You may just have a child with a problem that needs attention. 

  Sorry, but I just hate to see a parent beat themselves up because they want to have a child that isn’t the norm obey.  It is sad to see that parent have to go threw it all but we really didn’t get an owners manual on them when we had them. 🙂

        BLessings and I hope you have a blessed day!

Okay, we really need a “like” button. 🙂

Chocodog, I can’t tell you the tears of frustration and embarassment we went through before our son’s diagnosis, when he would flail and scream in terror at strange/overloading situations, and we were told they were “tantrums” and that we were “spoiling” him.  We were as lost as he was.  A diagnosis and opportunity to come to understanding changed all of our lives. 

Love what you wrote.

Amanda