Topic | disobedient 3 yr old boy

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  • jill smith
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    Hello, it been a long time since ive been on this site. We are still doing as much CM as possible but in the midst of school the past 3 years we have adopted a child. He is a bit of a challenge somedays and getting him to obey and pick up toys and such is getting to my nerves. He is spoiled and has a lot of toys. How old is laying down the rail for? He is all boy and very curious. love him but there are days i think about putting him in preschool. None of our children entered preschool but its hard for the older ones to concentrate and reading the bible and read aloud time is crazy. Im always being interupted by his loudness or just plain disobedience. Help!!! IM an older mom so may be a little to relaxed. lol!

    saturnstroll
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    Go with the super nanny technique. It’s easy and works well. Takes a while to take effect, but in time it will work for sure. The only thing is, you have to implement this technique coolly and calmly or situations escalate.

    jill smith
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    What? Do I need to buy something?

    saturnstroll
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    You can find many free videos online. Just search “Super Nanny” and watch a few episodes. She always repeats when and how to put a child in ‘Time Out’. Just follow her explanation to a t, and your child will shape up quickly. You have to be firm, but loving, and especially consistent.

    sarah2106
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    3 can be a pretty intense age for some little ones. I have multiple friend that have adopted, so my first question would be does your little guy have any past trauma or experiences from his past that could be effecting him. My friends that have adopted have a mix of biological and adopted children, and all have found great support in adoption communities as they gain support from others in similar situations.

    Some children do just need modifications to discipline tactics, but some children, and parents, need more assistance to find what works. Some children struggle with their own mental/emotional feelings that they truly need different methods. I have a dear friend whose youngest was different than her older children in his responses (as young as a toddler you could tell he was struggling) and as she started to research she realized he was responding as a child who had been through a traumatic situation as an infant/young child. He had not been through any experiences, but as she modified how she responded, his behaviour started to change. At 10 he has come so far, but still work in progress (aren’t we all 🙂 )

    I say all that to just bring different ideas. It could be he is just being naughty and choosing to not obey and a change in methods will work, or it could be that he truly can’t obey as instructed because of other things going on in how he understands and processes information.

    Keep looking and asking for help and ideas. You are doing a great job!! Busy 3 year olds are a handful for sure.

    I just thought of something someone suggested on this forum years ago that I implemented with my youngest. They said to “fill their cup first” so before starting school with the older kids take time to sit and read or play with the youngest, some one on one time, could be 10 min or 30 min what ever the little one needs. When their “cup” is full they are not seeking attention as quickly as feel important too. I know the days that I gave that attention to my littlest first, he did seem a bit less attention craving, and then every hour or so I would take about 10 min to just hang out with him. He saw me helping the big kids, to him it was not school, they were getting one on one attention and he wanted that too.

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