Our oldest read “I kissed dating good-bye” and said it was good.
We have always talked very openly about dating and our viewpoints. We do not promote or allow casual dating in our family. But when the time comes, we need to now the boy or girl. Friendship first, all group and family things, NEVER alone. We have taught our son that if he wants to date a girl, he must have our permission and then must ask for the father of the girls permission. Same goes for our daughers. If a boy is interested, he must talk to Dad.
This has worked with our almost 20 year old. She has had 2 boys come and talk to Dad, friendships and group things, and both times decided that they were not going to pursue the relationship. She remains friends with both of these boys and the first time was when she was almost 18. No drama, done nicely. There are no suitors at this time.
Second daughter, 14 years. Pushes the limits constantly and is always at battle. “Dated” a boy behind our back. Just calls it that these days and they see eachother at games and stuff. This boy is not even a christian. Needless to say, we have talked very openly and prayed constantly. She has ended it with him. However, I have a feeling that this is really going to be a battle with her for many years to come. We have not raised her any differently. She read beautiful girlhood, waiting for prince charming, and has sat in many purity sermons. She knows right from wrong. She knows what the word says and has even battled with a group of girls on how kissing before marriage was wrong. But then really desires the boy’s attention. Dad is present and is actually closest with this daughter, always takes her on special dates, tells her how pretty she is, hugs her, tells her he loves her…. All that to say, ultimatley she makes the choices.
Our son, is not there yet. Still to young.
Blessings,
Vanessa
