Crazy, insecure, or on to something? Laying it all out!


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  • Sue Pruett

    This is a great discussion, and all the posts bring up excellent points.  There is one other option I would just like to throw into the mix.  It is possible to be able to provide for our needs via owning our own businesses, and young people can learn this very quickly and very well.  It is even possible to earn a very nice income online – so the added benefit of being home all the time can be counted, too.  Also, you can create many streams of income that are automated – ie. you don’t have to work with them regularly for them to bring in money regularly.

    Here’s another benefit – if one stream dries up, you have other streams going that can see you through until you replace that stream.  

    I realize not everyone has this personality, but I don’t think we should overlook this as a possibility for our children.  It is one other way we can teach them self-sufficiency.  

    Just thought I’d throw that out there for consideration!


    Hi, I just wanted to say I went to a small Christian college and grew so much spiritually during my time there. I also feel like that is where I really grew up into an adult. I didn’t marry until I was 27, so my degree (in teaching) came in pretty handy to support myself. Even though I have a bacehlor’s degree and a master’s degree now, I am content to stay home and be a mommy. I think the way you have raised your daughter to value home and family will do much more for her attitude toward work vs. home than her college experience. That said, I wouldn’t trade my time at college for anything. Hope this helps!

    Sonya Shafer

    Sue, thanks so much for mentioning the option of starting one’s own business. That is an important possibility that we are trying to encourage in our home too.


    I went to college for 2 years before stopping. I stopped because my husband and I found ourselves pregnant with our first child. I actually *do* regret my time in college. I feel now that it was a waste of my time. I wish I had spent those years being mentored by seasoned moms so that I could be a better wife and eventually a mother. It took us many years to pay off my student loan. I have learned far more from books and studies I do on my own than I ever did while in college. If I am honest about this, I feel that most Christians go to college because they do not want to suffer being “poor”.  To me it looks like these young girls are trading in the best years of their lives for the pursuit of the american dream and the badge of honor that an official degree gives them. I would rather see my daughters marry young and enjoy their youthful years with their husband while having children. That is, of course, unless the Lord clearly leads them in a different direction. Seeking a degree because of all the “what-if’s” is not a good reason, to me, to be drawn down that road. It just doesn’t seem like what Jesus teaches us. He teaches us not to worry, not to fear, not to try to build up our treasures here on earth. I’m not trying to offend anyone with a different opinion. I just wanted to add mine. This is a great topic to talk about. Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts on it.


    I think that being prepared for different things leaves us able to accept what is right for us when it’s time.

    Also, if a person goes through high school, they ought to be able to handle college. What if you didn’t take 2 years of foreign language in high school? At our local community college, anyone can take classes. If you don’t have what it takes to start a “degree program”, I think you could get it at the beginning.

    I definitely would not try to decide if my child were going to college when they are just beginning high school. And even more, I would not expect THEM to decide that while they are so young. When my senior son was starting high school, he wanted to be a chiropractor, now his plan is to go into music. But he’s still 16, so I realize that may change. As long as he decides through prayer, he’ll know what he should do when it’s time to do it.

    But being as prepared as we can is the key-for all of us. I had some friends that felt led to learn Russian. They put it off and never got to it. A couple years later, they had to turn down an opportunity to work there. They regretted that for a long time.



    I, too, would like to second Sue’s post. We just started implementing entrepreneurship into our homeschool for this very purpose. We’re using Stephen Bech’s “How to start your own business…for families and teens”.

    I’d love to hear other resources you might use.

    God Bless! ~ heather



    Education (maybe not “college”) and homemaking are not necessarily mutually exclusive options. I know for myself and for many of us that take the homeschooling route our hearts desire is to raise daughters that will be virtuous women amongst their generation. I encourage you to seek the Lord’s wisdom on how your children’s gifts and abilities can best be drawn out to the glory and honour of His name.

    Pro 31:10“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price [is] far above rubies

    Pro 31:11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

    Pro 31:12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

    Pro 31:13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

    Pro 31:14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

    Pro 31:15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

    Pro 31:16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

    Pro 31:17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. 

    Pro 31:18 She perceiveth that her merchandise [is] good: her candle goeth not out by night.

    Pro 31:19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

    Pro 31:20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

    Pro 31:21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household [are] clothed with scarlet. 

    Pro 31:22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing [is] silk and purple. 

    Pro 31:23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

    Pro 31:24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth [it]; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. 

    Pro 31:25 Strength and honour [are] her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

    Pro 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue [is] the law of kindness. 

    Pro 31:27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

    Pro 31:28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband [also], and he praiseth her.   

    Pro 31:29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. 

    Pro 31:30 Favour [is] deceitful, and beauty [is] vain: [but] a woman [that] feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. 

    Pro 31:31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.


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