would LOVE prayer

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  • February 2, 2010 at 9:25 pm
    Kalle
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    My mother-in-law is spending a month with us. She has been here already two weeks. She is very over bearing and I am quite the opposite. Anyho she believes that my 5 year old should be doing everything that my 7 year old is doing to make life easier. This past week she has plugged my little girl through 20 pages of mep 1 math and is going to try to get her through the next 50 by the end of two weeks. Natanya (my daughter) is happy that she is doing this all. I am really uncertain of all that she is understanding and retaining. She has also been doing hours of hooked on phonics and such reading practice with my three year old. So far they are all doing well. I just wonder how much of this on both parts is strick memorization. I can tell with my three year old son that Mason’s philosophy on reading is correct. He has memorized the words cat, is, and the. However, all of the other words look to similar to figure out. Anyways I am really frustrated and would just appreciate pray. I have tried to explain what I feel about all of this. I think that she just believes that I am to lax on my kids. Thanks =kalle

    February 2, 2010 at 9:33 pm
    Rachel White
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    You DO need prayer; and to talk to your husband. It’s his mother and so he needs to enforce the proper boundaries. I assume he’s not there in the day, so doesn’t have to deal with it. But I’m sure he approves of how you’re handling things and his opinion is IMO, the only one that matters. She undermining HIS authority in his house, not to mention yours, obviously.

    If she thinks that this is appropriate now, when in the future she comnes again, this will continue to happen, and get worse. It’s certainly appropriate to give her something to do with the children related to their schooling; perhaps some things you haven’t been able to get to.  She may appreciate being useful and “a part of their education”, which she desires to do; but it needs to be within your permissive will, not against it.

    If he won’t do it, you’ll have to and though that will create some problems, I think it will be worse than not handling it at all. There’s a tactful way to do it and she may pull a grandmother guilt-trip, but she needs to gently be put in her place and given something to do with them, within the proper boundaries.

    Just my 2 cents, hope it helps,

    Rachel

    February 2, 2010 at 9:36 pm
    cherylramirez
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    I will be happy to pray for you.  I whole-heartedly agree with Rachel, she cannot come into your house and run your school.  We are to respect our parents as the Bible says, but your husband is the head of your household, not your MIL.  Maybes she can help with poetry reading, drawing, nature study, telling stories from how the world has changed since her day, etc.  If you let her get away with it this time, who knows what will happen her next visit!  Maybet this is a great time for a school vacation! 

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