Name: Great Homeschool Conventions (Columbus)
Start: 2025-04-24T00:00:00-05:00
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July 7, 2011 at 6:05 pm
Misty
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Let’s face it we all get there. Moms and dads alike. But today was one of those days where didn’t sleep last night well. Woke at 4 and swore to go back to sleep which I did by 5 and woke at 650. But still woke feeling off.
YOu know the days. The noise seems to come out of every part of the house. The mess seems never ending even if it’s really not bad. The kids seem to be driving you up a wall. Dh (who calls every morning) doesn’t call you to say hi this morning. Really isn’t answering/responding to my texts, which either means he’s upset with me or he’s really busy.
And I really just want to be alone. I know this is partly from a 4th of July weekend where I ate a lot of not great things and my body is totally yelling at me for the smore’, extra cookies, and what ever else I never really eat.
So I just wanted to share that today is one of those days where nothing will get done or very little. I will ponder dh’s feelings till he pulls in and I see his body language. And I will just sit and watch the kids play and leave the laundry till tomorrow!
July 7, 2011 at 6:07 pm
HeidiS
Participant
And make yourself a cup of tea, and pull out some psalms:) Put some good music on and relax. Oh, yes, I know those days…yesterday was one 😉 Remember, this too, shall pass ..
Blessings!
Heidi
July 7, 2011 at 6:23 pm
Janell
Participant
A nature walk, playing in the sprinklers, or just sitting in the sun help me to feel like my children and I are moving in the same direction for a moment on days when everything from children, emotions, and things seem so scattered. I suggest you go outside for a little bit. I am praying for you today.
Janell
July 7, 2011 at 6:51 pm
missingtheshire
Member
Keep these kinds of days in perspective and they will not bother you as much – we do all have them and there are days when little seems to get done – but it does not hurt children to see that sometimes Mum is under the weather and that then she needs to regroup a little. I always told the girls when that was happening with me, no details, just that I was having an off day, or had not slept well – that I would need their help especially on that day – you know what, most of the time they were great, playing or reading nicely and giving me time to settle myself. In the end the off days are outnumbered by the good ones, and so you should not worry about them – just have a go with the flow kind of day. Have some Bible time, maybe involve the kids in that and just relax a little. Prayers for you – Linda
July 7, 2011 at 6:58 pm
suzukimom
Participant
Sometimes on days like those, I let the kids know that I’m not feeling well. I have sometimes (and I do this when I’m sick too) put on a movie, or a bunch of “kid shows” and dozed on the couch while they play quietly and watch tv. They tend to behave really well on those days, they enjoy the change in pace, and they do seem to understand the not feeling well.
As for your dh… I suspect he may just be busy… when you are having an “off” day it is easy to “read” things into situations that aren’t there…
July 7, 2011 at 8:28 pm
Ladyofthehouse
Member
I totally sympathize :o) I’m sitting in bed in my pajamas right now and the kids have been playing by themselves and watching tv this afternoon. I’d already decided this morning that no school was going to get done so didn’t even try. By this afternoon I was going down hard so ended up flipping on the tv for the kids and took a nap while the youngest napped. Basically all that has gotten done today is that I unloaded the dishwasher, oh, and I did feed the children :o)
My main lesson lately has been to not take my frustration that I’m not being productive out on my husband and kids (I still fail quite often, including today). My husband always reminds me that an afternoon of tv and sandwiches for dinner is much less damaging to him and the kids then a crabby, yelling mother. I’m trying to learn :o(
By the way, is it just me or do the hormonal swings get worse over time?! I used to sail through PMS with hardly a glitch when I was in my teens and 20s but now (32) I feel like I totally hit a wall physically and emotionally about this time…..just wondering if that’s normal….
July 7, 2011 at 8:56 pm
LillyLou
Participant
I won’t add much, cuz’ it looks like it’s all been said, but….must be in the water because yesterday I texted my husband and said “I love you. I haven’t gotten a cotton pickin’ thing accomplished. I’m gonna take a nap. See you soon.” Seriously. Tired. And. Unproductive. And yet, today still came! (“His mercies are new every morning” ring a bell?)
Hear ya sister!
Blessings,
LillyLou
July 8, 2011 at 12:59 am
Misty
Participant
I’m always worse the days after for about 2-3 days. Wierd huh? Anyway, yes I did mention that I was tired and felt off today. Everyone seemed to be better? Maybe I should use tha more often?? HMMMM J/k
I read adn watched the kids in the pool and just hung out. It was refreshing to not feel like it all had to be done. Oh, and dh was fine just a busy day and couple non-marital things at work fustrating him. Weight lifted off my shoulde.
Tomorrow is a new day and I have to get groceries! So we will get things done!
July 9, 2011 at 1:37 am
joannarammell
Participant
32…ha…41 over here with an 8mo old nursing baby plus the other 3–oldest being 7.
what if you keep having days like this…
struggling right now. on many fronts. making small headway. at war with obedience issues, too much stuff (clutter) issues, weird health issues, subsequent diet/cooking issues, wanting to do too much issues, unclean house issues, organization issues (which is funny considering my previous professions), where to even start issues, curriculum issues (again trying to do too much so not doing enough), perfection issues, depression issues, sleep deprivation issues, and guilt…i’m eat up with guilt…that i’m not doing enough, being enough, stimulating my dd extremely bright mind enough, etc.etc. etc….
am making small headway…took kitchen back yesterday. cooked today and lost some ground there…but recoverable.
won with daughter and obedience after two days of battles. today was third day…went amazingly better today. this is huge…can’t do many of the fun things we want to do with a constant battle…
but deeply tired. in pain. and hungry…the new way of eating is hard right now–snacks are hard to think of…
and sad. i kept crying out to GOD to help me…and He has been faithful and I am making progress…
but I keep falling down…and sometimes, I don’t seem to even want to get back up.
and schedules vs. routines…and oh, too much …
jo

July 9, 2011 at 1:43 am
missingtheshire
Member
Jo so sorry to hear of your issues – it does get better but that does not help right now. Are you perhaps trying to solve too many issues at one time…can you perhaps prioritize and see which things would help most, and work through the list even if it takes a month or two or more. Can you step back and see the small successes on a daily basis every day…it is encouraging when we can see that. Can you resist working on a few items for a little while so that you can really focus on say one or two issues. I am sorry – life does get the better of us sometimes doesn’t it? Take a deep breath, step back, make that list and go for a day at a time…I will keep you in my prayers. Hugs, Linda
July 9, 2011 at 2:54 am
suzukimom
Participant
Hi Jo….
I am feeling for you, as it sounds like we are in a similar place!
I am almost 43 with a 1yo, 3yo, 5yo and 7yo. Our finances suck, the house is always a mess no matter how hard I try. My kids are pretty good, but there has been squabbling, etc, as well as one doing things to bug another just to bug them. Stomping when sent to do chores they know they need to do… The 3yo is potty training…. and I’m almost ready to throw in the towel on that! (I am changing diapers for the 1yo… cleaning poop out of underwear from the 3yo, and our cat often decides to poop just outside the litterbox…. I am sick of poop! I need to diet but keep failing, and I’m having health issues because of it. I try hard to get a handle on something, and 3 more things fall apart. For instance, yesterday I was mowing our (huge) lawn… and I hit the city water pipe end/cap that sticks out. I know it is there, I never hit it… but yesterday I did. So now the lawnmower needs a new blade… and I’m hoping it still works after we put on a new blade.
My husband works nights, and his schedule is such that I rarely get any time to see him when the kids aren’t around… and in fact I hardly see him most days except for when he is getting ready for work. That is why I’m on here so much… I don’t have anyone to talk to in the evenings.
Anyway… just wanted to say that it seems like we are in a similar spot, and I understand the depression, tiredness, etc. I know that this is just a stage of life…. but most people have our stage of life (the lots of young kids around) when they are younger…. it seems a lot harder at our age!
July 9, 2011 at 3:10 am
missingtheshire
Member
I had my girls at age 37 and it is harder – I was a late starter – and in your forties it can be very difficult and I only had the twins – so I really feel for you ladies and when your hubby is at work most of the time and you don’t see him much that makes it even tougher. I am glad you feel free to come on here and vent, it is a good thing to do, and there is always someone to listen even if we cannot always help much. We can pray and encourage and hope that helps. Forums like this can sometimes seem impersonal, but I for one am glad it is here and I hope you both find much help and compassion here. I still remember being alone with the girls when they were babies and they had severe colic – there father was away with the Air Force and used to look at them both screaming and I just stood at the end of their cribs rocking them with tears streaming down my face – I knew no-one, had just arrived from England and the babies were 4 lbs each in weight and just out of hospital after 3 months in NICU they only weighed 1lb 14oz and 2lbs at birth – they had sleep apnea, had monitors and it was a nightmare. I just kept praying and when it got too much I would make sure they were safe in their cribs, go out in the yard and read the Bible for a little while. Hubby was gone a lot when they were little up until the age of about 9 and it was hard – so I can relate very well as to how depressing and exhausting it is. Hang in there ladies, prayers being said for you. Linda
July 9, 2011 at 11:42 am
Misty
Participant
Prayers, Patience and hugs! That’s what I offer to you. Know tha you are loved adn prayed for and our God is faithful. Misty
July 9, 2011 at 7:51 pm
joannarammell
Participant
missingtheshire,
your posts are always a blessing to me. thank you.
suzukimom,
your post caused a paradign (-sp?) shift in me. i sat here stunned last night–mouth actually hung open. i guess i had created a mental picture of you (not physical…just ideas of who you are)…and you had it ALL together in my mind. the violin lessons, on top of math, that amazing list of what you are going to do this school year, etc. etc…then your post last night was shocking to me…we do sound like we are in similar situations. do you live in a very cold climate too–with winters that seem to last forever?
what is even kind of funny is that my husband is trying to fix the lawn mower blade right now…as he ran over something last weekend and broke it…fixed it…and then broke it again…and quit until today.
please don’t get me wrong…i am not rejoicing that you are having problems…i feel for you–truly…but it was also comforting to see that we are real women with real lives and we are not super moms, perfect homeschooling icons…i don’t know…it was refreshing and helpful to me to see that we all have our strengths our weaknesses our faults our sins and of course, our Saviour….
praying HE will bring us both peace as we learn to WALK where HE leads.
jo
July 9, 2011 at 11:09 pm
4myboys
Participant
Jo and Susukimom; Wow! I can so relate in many ways! Although my kids are a little older (10 and 7), my husbands job keeps him away most weekends, so I’ve had those days — and still have those days when I am ready to pull my hair out and have no one to help out when things are getting tough.
My house is also a disaster, and there is always something that needs doing that I am putting off. I get discouraged and overwhelmed sometimes because I don’t know where to begin. A year and a half ago I could say that I’d lost 42 lbs, but I have now gained 25 lbs back. I am doing a First Place 4 Health Study with some of the ladies from our church. It is on hope, and picking ourselves up and recognizing Chirst as our true source of strength. I’ve decided to stop believing satan’s lies and start believing that He who is in me is stronger than he who is in the world. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. So when I start feeling like I’m crazy for wanting to homeschool, and that I’m setting myself up for failure and my kids up for a miserable year that will leave them behind their peers academically, I need to recognize that that is the enemy planting seeds of doubt. I need to turn to Christ and hear the truth.
Thanks, Missingtheshire, for the encouragement. I know it was meant for Jo, but we all need to hear it. We need to be willing to be open and transparent for others who are going through the things that we are or have experienced. Nothing that we are experienceing now is unique — someone on this forum has likely been through something very similar or going through the same thing exactly at the same time we are. I’m really glad to have such a great bunch of ladies willing to share their lives — even if it is online!
God bless each and everyone of you!
Tracey