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I would like to Trade the 6yo little monster that has appeared at our house for the nice lovable 6yo girl that used to live here……
I swear, she is spending the whole day having tantrums, picking on her siblings, punching her older brother, whining, crying, screaming, yelling “I don’t want to!” and more – all day long. I won’t say she used to be perfect or anything even near it – but now it is constant. She pushes the limits on everything.
So, could someone please tell me where my nice little girl went so I can trade back for the one that has been here recently??? Please???
If you figure out how to trade the monsters for the happy kids, let me know. My 6yo has been yelling things like “I have the worst life ever!” and “I hate being the oldest!” lately. I’m not sure what has changed to make her life the worst ever, but apparently it is. The other day she told me she wanted to run away. I told her that I would miss her very much, but that if that was what she felt she needed to do, then she should. I reminded her that everything I do and all my decisions are because I’m trying to teach her how to be happy, but if she felt that she would be happier living on the sidewalk, then I would accept that. I only want her to be happy after all.
She looked at me for a long time, deep in thought and then walked away. Amazingly, the outbursts about having the worst life have stopped. The pestering of younger siblings, complaining about everything, etc. etc. is still there, but at least we made some small bit of progress.
I’m hoping Sheraz is right and it’s only spring fever!
Joanne
Those little monsters do grow up, and then those times are distant memories…I am glad to be past those times, but would not trade all the memories for the world – I am sure it is spring fever, then summer fever, then autumn fever and so on…lol. It does pass and sometimes too quickly:)))
Part of it may be the long winter dragging out. I feel crabby, too sometimes. Hopefully once it starts to warm up and dry up all the kids will be outside running around and be wonderfully normal again.
I love jmac17’s response to her would-be-runaway. Great way to make her thing and appreciate how good she’s got it.
Our boys are really crabby, too. They’ve been cooped up a lot lately. The weather’s been terrible for out-door play — too wet and cool. Not enough snow for sledding, no ice for skating. Thankfully March break is coming. This year we are taking separate vacations — the boys are going to Aunt’s house for a week, Mom and Dad are going to a tropical island. We should all appreciate each other much better when the week is over!
They have been getting out a fair bit to play in the snow a fair bit (mild winter here) so not sure. I do think it is partially an age thing, as I remember her brother being pretty bad a couple of years ago – different symptoms. Yes a bunch of the bickering/fighting… but he would go with the melodramatic “I’m tired” or “I don’t feel well” when asked to do things. It does seem that a few months after turning 8, he has turned into a different boy – willing to help out and work, mostly helpful with his sisters (yes, there are still times….) and less complaining… So I know there is hope…
One thing that comes to mind when my sweet children disappear for a while is that they’re growing and changing, but not comfortable with it. What I mean is a child starts to want more independence and control over a part of their life and if we don’t find a way to give them more control where we can they feel frustrated and fight us for control. Unfortunately it seems to come out in angry words, shaking fists in our face in essence, or even tantrums. (Totally speaking from experience here!)
I know I have a hard time balancing their ever-growing abilities and desire for agency/control with my own need and desire to be ‘in charge’ and keep the family running smoothly. And sometimes they’re not really ready for more control so I can’t give it to them.
sigh. Parenting is hard!
That would be the case with older ds 11. He wants control, but he’d struggling with resposibility and follow through. We’re woking on it.
Thought of your post when I read this. Enjoy!
http://www.feminagirls.com/2012/02/29/on-misreading-daughters/
Ok – a 50 minute tantrum (and still counting)…..
where oh where has my nice little girl gone, oh where, oh where could she be???
Well, how’s it going?
My dd had 90 min. bang-your-head-against-the-wall tantrums after we adopted her, so I know how you feel.
Made me have to walk outside and my son (older tghan her by 6 mths. chronologically) still gets emotionally distraught when she gets a spanking, being sensitive as a result those early days.
well, she is quiet mostly now – alternating between coming out for some excuse (which generally starts a short new tantrum when sent back to bed) – or talking to the other room occupents causing me to tell her to be quiet fairly often… SIGH. I just hope she falls asleep before starting another round of it.
well, I finally told her that if there were any more problems, that she wouldn’t get the use of the TV, computer, or Wii tomorrow. As I’m sick, they have been doing more of that then usual. Fortunately, I haven’t heard a peep since…
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