Truly committing to homeschooling & parenting

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  • October 2, 2013 at 3:18 pm
    elsnow6
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    I was reading another post & saw Tristan comment how we aren’t always committed to what it is we say we want & value. I’ve heard this from others & know it applies to me. What I’m struggling with is how to flip that switch in my mind. Believe me, I’ve prayed for help yet am still nowhere close to living out the commitment I voice having. I’m sure a significant portion of my issue stems from having my whole life thrown into upheaval shortly after my oldest was born. This took everything I had in my heart & mind about being a mother, having a family & threw it out the window. I’ve never recovered & come up with a new vision. I’ve just tried to force everything into my old vision then lose it when everyone & everything doesn’t cooperate… because they really can’t as nothing that supported that old vision is present (at least not in that same form). So, how does one accomplish that change… matching up expressed goals/vision with actions?

    October 2, 2013 at 4:29 pm
    TailorMade
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    I find myself in the same place from time to time. In the “if only” mode. If things were like this, then I could do a better job of that. Marriage, parenting, homeschooling, cooking, yard/garden, milking and making lovely dairy delights, etc.

    I think the best way to accomplish flipping the switch is to “work with what you have, where you are.” Decide which one thing needs to be “switched” most in order to move toward this change you’d like to see. Then, work on it as you would a habit.

    I once heard that Mary Kay told those who were selling her products that if they smiled while talking on the phone to customers (or, in person for that matter) they’d sound/appear happy about the product and their situation in life…something along those lines anyway. The idea is that if you act happy, the smile on your face sends messages in reverse to your brain. This changes how you think. It’s sounds backwards. We may think we must be happy in order to act happy. But, if we act happy, we end up believing we are happy….is the line of thinking in this example.

    Contentment is key. That’s hard. But, we can remember that Paul learned to be content in want, or in need. Several of the threads recently tend to be based on feelings. So, if we change our minds about feelings, then they can’t control how we respond to our daily lives. The decision to behave as if things are wonderful just might help us act as if we’re wearing rose colored glasses….BTW, I wear them and it does help….that’s another thread.

    Decide to do the most necessary thing whether you feel like it, or not. Each time you do, you are cementing the correct thought process about your life. That it’s good, that it’s valuable, that it’s necessary, even if not the way you planned it. The Lord knows how His plans are coming together in our lives. We have to come alongside Him and learn to enjoy watching how He’s going to work it all out for our good.

    I’ve rambled, I know. But, we’ve been searching for our daughter’s missing dog for three days. While writing this out, our daughter came home with her and the house is full of laughter and rambunctious barking! ;0) She didn’t know it would work out this way, but trusted that whatever was in her best interest would happen. It’s exciting that it includes Dolly.

    Blessings,

    Becca<><

    October 2, 2013 at 4:37 pm
    TailorMade
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    I meant to add to this sentence… Marriage, parenting, homeschooling, cooking, yard/garden, milking and making lovely dairy delights, etc.

    These are all things I’d like to have look like a water colored painting. They don’t always look that way. Health, finances, time management, cooperation from others in the house, and more all come into the equation. Interruptions side track plans, even derail them at times. But, I’ve noticed that I tend to not do anything to recover, or pick up from the new starting spot at times, dwelling on the what could’ve, should’ve, would’ve happened if only…

    That doesn’t move toward the pretty painting in my mind’s eye.

    During the not so distant thread about Creating a Masterpiece dvds, pastels were discussed as being “forgiving.” I like that description. If I could explain what I tried to say earlier, it would be to live life like you’re using pastels. They are forgiving. They do blur the colors into a pretty picture instead of having to be precisely what we intended. Or, maybe water colors might be a way to picture this idea? Either way, I’m trying to think in terms of my favorite art. It happens to be Impressionism. It’s a bit blurry, but beautiful. It’s not exactly close up perfection, but it’s still beautiful.

    I hope this is helping even a bit…

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