The best advice..

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  • Misty
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    Ok  So I figured it out.  Moneys tight so really nice shower gift is out of the question.  I will get her some great smaller things that we all mentioned.  That said you all had me thinking about the “personal” thing I could do and I have decided to make her a book. 

    In this book I want to just give her, from one mom to another, everything I wish I would have known sooner.  Things that aren’t in the ‘how to’ books.  From Delivery to when ever.  This isn’t going to be a do this book, but a book with a lot of little things like this:

    *Don’t waste your time bringing all that stuff to the hospital.  All you really need to have: a clean pair of clothes to go home in (oh and don’t forget they need to have fit when you walked in the hosptial), slippers, hair stuff, a pen, baby book, address book, outfit for baby to go home in, a blanket, nuk, socks (for both).  If you have a DVD player in your hospital room bring a movie.  There never seems to be anything good on! An empty bag to bring things home in.

    *If hubby gets to take time off.  Only have him take a day or two when you come home.  Baby will be sleeping and eatting at first.  You would really like to have him home in about 2 weeks when baby starts to be up more and you need someone to help you while you sleep.  Also, this is the time to have parents around.  You will need to nap!

    *Not all babies like the same thing.  If the swing isn’t doing it, try the bouncy, if that’s not working put him/her in a sling.  You can NOT hold an infant to much!  Love them.

    Well you get the idea!  What are some of your “wish I would have known” things?  Thanks for sharing, Misty

    my3boys
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    I think that is a great idea and may use them for my niece when she has her baby:)

    I hope you get lots of replies and I may give one myself.

    2flowerboys
    Participant

    I received something like this at my baby shower from the guests there! We were away from family and home. The church we attended gave us a shower! The moms were so sweet. It was part of the shower itself. So the ladies had different colored index cards to write on. These were put in a baby photo album. They were sweet reminders of what do do when blank happens…or remember children are a gift from God when you are exhausted..and sweet Bible verses to cling to. I thought this was the best gift ever because it came from the heart of seasoned moms!

    I will find mine and let you know a couple of them! Great idea Misty!

    My advice…Throw out all books about babies except one good one! I had too many of them that contradicted each other, and I was exhasperated! Trust your God given instincts..afterall God did create moms!

    blue j
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    Such a nice idea.  When I threw the baby shower for my dsis, I sent an index card with each invite and aske the guest to write items like you’ve listed as a help.  We then compiled them into an index card recipe page protector in a pretty binder. Even the guests who had never had a baby enjoyed this, and wrote things like, “Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water,” so she had some smiles mixed in with the BTDT notes.

    lgeurink
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    My mom gave me the best advice, “Don’t rely on advice”.  As new moms, we get tons of advice from people who are not parenting the children we are.  All the advice in the world is wonderfully helpful, but when the advice doesn’t work, we can feel like failures or that something is wrong with our kids.  Baby books were written by people who have never met your baby!  I think the book is a great idea because we need so much help, especially the first time around.  For me, the best advice was to let myself off the hook, enjoy my baby, hold her every moment I want to, and quit trying a piece of advice if it isn’t working!  Maybe end the book with a disclaimer!  And I liked the one about only having one baby book, after all my anxiety over how my baby wasn’t doing the things the baby books said she should, my mom told me to throw my books away.  It was so freeing!  This sounds like I think the book is a bad idea, sorry, I totally don’t mean that!  I think it is awesome as long as it doesn’t come across like “if you do this, then things will be smooth and easy” because we all know that isn’t true, even between one child and another.  Sounds like a fun idea, have fun!

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