My DS is 3.5 yo. I have recently begun to have him do certain things each morning and evening. For example his morning routine is to get his day clothes out, take his PJs off, put them where they belong, put his day clothes on… And I’d like to add brushing his teeth and making his bed to this. What I have discovered is that every day I am saying, “Do your morning routine.”, “Get your day clothes out.”, “Where do your PJs go?” (when I see them laying in the floor), etc. Basically I find myself going through each step, or most of them, instead of him going through the process himself. I figure it takes time to get there. I was trying to think of maybe picture cards or a picture chart or something that would be his reminder instead of me. Any ideas? Do these seem like reasonable requests for a child his age? Should I be doing less… Or more… In your experience and opinion?
I have my little ones wear a chore tag or necklace that has small pictures to represent what they are to do every morning. For example, on a 3 x 5 card I drew a little bed (for making up her bed), a spoon and fork (for putting up the clean silverware), a toothbrush (for brushing her teeth) , etc. I laminated it and punched a hole for yarn to wear around their neck and they can turn it around to see it easily.
I still have to remind her to stay on task, but she has the card to refer to for reinforcement. As they get older, using a timer helps to establish a habit being diligent and following through in a certain time.
I mainly use the make bed, toy box for cleaning their rooms, brush teeth and brush hair. They started using these when they were 3 and 4.
Thank you for reminding me to use these!! I am going to start adding fold laundry and vacuuming to their afternoon. I had been trying to switch off with the vacuum because they think it is fun but all of a sudden the fun is starting to wear off – bummer! 😉
I love the chore pictures that aprilsblessings posted. I think we will be incorporating those into our system! My kids can read their routines, but the pictures would be more fun.
Each of my children (6yo and 4yo) have a small photobook where we insert index cards with their routines. They can use dry erase markers to cross off each task. As long as I remember to get them started on the routines, they will follow it. Eventually I hope to have them initiate the process themselves, but at least this way I just have to remind once, rather than for each step.
Another idea is to take a picture of them doing the job themselves. Or at least their own things – their bed all made up, their own toothbrush, clothes, etc. The photobook idea is cool, too.
I used index cards w/ holes and put them on a ring. My dc are older, so I had the chore on the front w/ the details of what is to be done for that particular chore on the back. This is so I don’t have to remind them of each step involved w/ their responsibilities. Eventually, you could use 2 or 3 different rings (am, pm, and during the day) based on your needs.