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Regretting my decision to send one child back to school while homeschooling the other!!!
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She did contact the principal. The problem is her work schedule didn’t make it possible to come and talk to them in person… My husband was this close to going in there and making a scene….
My grandson is in a totally different school this year.
I can relate on many stands…the calm, patient, thoughtful husband, the homework loads, the berating teachers.
My DD had an awful first grade year with a teacher who didn’t understand the emotional and social impacts Kelsey’s chronic illnesses have on her, in addition to a new medicine causing all kinds of problems. The teacher was so frustrated at her inability to get her work done in a “timely manner”, especially when she was sick and distracted. So my DD had over an hour of homework each night. Second grade the teacher was better, but the work load and academic pressures were way too much…She was behind, and felt stupid and anxious all the time. The amount of work was ridiculous!
I’m so so glad we chose to HS this year…She’s doing much better now that the pressure’s off and she can work at her own pace and level.
To the OP, keep praying and keep talking with your DH. I wouldn’t pressure him into something that he’s not ready for, but defiently keep talking about it. Involve your DS too, and see what he thinks about it. I hope you can come to the decsion that is best for your family, and congratulations on the baby!
Kate
I think if you read the book ” How children Fail? and “How children Learn” by John Holt. If your husband was to read that he would probably change his mind about your homeschooling your son. Those two books alone helped me realize the worst job I do couldn’t be any worse then what they would be getting in PS. It is written by a ps teacher about his observations of classroom children, what they do all day, how they stiffle each others growth, how his classes learned and how other classes learned. It was very insightful. If your dh would read that I think he would pull your son out of school asap.
I know your son wants to be in school so maybe you could advicate your other son to tell him how much he likes being homeschooled. Give your son the pros. When we are going shopping we see the school bus and think about you being in the school and how much we would like it if you were in the store with us. yada yada yada…
Or You could wait and take him out at Christmas break if things seem to work out that way. You will have to unlearn him though. Also talked about in that book. I wasn’t sure I wanted to pull mine out. I was going to leave my younger one in to. He seems to have the worst time with wanting to be in school. He would go back tomorrow if I would let him. He is my social butterfly. He loves being around others no matter what it takes. So, your son may want the social stimulation and really give you a hard time when you pull him out. You may want to wait till he is having a difficult time and say well I can always homeschool you ? At that point he may welcome the idea. I am just giving you ideas. One mother I know did it that way. She let them make the choice. He ended up dropping out of ps after 1 month. He is in college now and studying to be a minister. So, you see. sometimes they have to want it. Making them sometimes is strenuous on both of you.
However, You are the parent and the choice for his life is your better judgement. So, you see, It is probably better off to let your husband make the final decision. Then, you can tell your son ,”It was your fathers choice that you stay home and learn with us. Then, it will take the pressure off of you when you are trying to teach a child that doesn’t want to be there. At least you can say , ” your father is the head of the family and this is his choice. ” We are to uphold it. He won’t be as mad at you. Trust me my son is still telling me how much he misses school. When all he misses is his friends.
The longer you wait the more you will lose his ability to think for his self. He will be less likely to answer questions and willing to take risks. This is all in the John Holt books.
I guess I am not much help other than telling you to read some material that will make the decision for your family. Hopefully dh is willing to read the book or listen to you read it.
Blessings! and good luck on all the goals you have to work on….
I had a talk with DS7 this morning about homeschooling. I have been dropping hints all week, like when he made scrambled eggs for us (something he is very proud of and loves to do) I said, “Man, if you were homeschooled, we could study cooking as one of your subjects.” But when I asked him this morning if he wanted to be homeschooled he still said no. He said he likes how fast time goes by in school and loves playing with his friends (I think that is the main thing, he is such a social kid). And of course, it is up to us, his parents, not him ultimately, but I also want him to be on board with what we decide.
His teacher is very kind and gracious. When I met with her and told her that we could only spend so much time on homework and he would probably be bringing in unfinished assignments, but it wasn’t because we didn’t care, but rather because we chose to spend our limited homework time on something like reading together instead, she seemed to understand, even if she wasn’t thrilled.
Thanks for all the helpful comments and suggestions.
Well, I am pulling up this post again just to say that we did decide to take DS7 out of school. We told him last Wednesday and gave him a few days to digest the information. Today was his last day. I felt such mixed emotions when I went into the office to fill out the paperwork, because as far as schools go, I really did like this one and we have been there since my older son was in kindergarten. I had invested a lot of volunteer time and energy. The teachers are all wonderful and my kids have so many good friends. However, I feel like this is ultimately the best decision we could have made. I just don’t like change very much. 😛
So, now the interesting part begins. We are actually starting a bit of a Fall break, since my baby is due Friday. I told my DS8 that we wouldn’t be doing school this week, but instead he would be helping me do projects and cleaning to prepare for the baby and he seemed okay with it.
Thank you to everyone who was encouraging as I made this decision. I can’t tell you how helpful reading this forum has been over the last couple of months as I began my homeschooling journey and continue in it!
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