Dana – I feel like there was another thread you started where someone might have mentioned Raising Godly Tomatoes… Do you recall? Either way, I highly recommend it, because when you are “tomato staking” you are often intervening to keep them from disobeying and you are training them in habits that are good and right ways to respond when they would normally respond sinfully – the great thing about this, is that you instill habits in them that make it easier to resist sin which makes discipline necessary less frequently. For example, if I can intervene and prevent a fight with my two young children, I do – the toddler grabs something from the 5 year old, I can tell the 5 year old want to respond in anger, because I have them both with me – I can quickly speak what the 5 year old’s response SHOULD be, “Yes, Trin, you may play with my ball, I am happy to share it with you.” She knows to repeat it and I may ask her to do it again, if she’s not doing it joyfully, then I give lots of commendation about how hard it is to share with a younger sibling, but how that is kind and loving. Does that make sense? I wish I had someone to speak the words I should say when my husband does something to tick me off – boy would that save me a lot of foot in mouth heartache! 
