Question about Laying Down the Rails

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  • June 1, 2011 at 10:47 pm
    AllG5
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    I am at my wits end with my almost 4yr dd.  I was looking at LDTR as a resource to work on habit training, specifically obedience and temper tantrums.  My question is are there practical advice and strategies in the book as to how to implement these habits?  I guess I’m looking for someone to hold my hand!  I am not new to parenting, she is #4 of 5, but she is very much different from the older 3 boys.

    If you have some strategies that have worked for you please share! 

    Thanks

    June 2, 2011 at 1:45 pm
    ruth
    Participant

    There are practicle suggestions from LDTR.  It is done in a story format for Temper Tantrums that Charlotte used to illistrate how to handle these issues.  I’m like you and need my hand held and told what to do with this particular incident.  I really like Raising Godly Tomatoes.  It has a lot of hands on ways to handle misbehavior.  I have an almost 2yr dd as well and she is already testing her limits and pushing my buttons.  She mentions in RGT about keeping the child with you at all times to stop the bad behavior as soon as it starts and not let it develope into habits. 

    Keep heart.  Depending on your childs temper, it could take a while to see changes, but when they come it is so worth all the work and effort.  HTH

    Ruth

    June 2, 2011 at 10:32 pm
    AllG5
    Participant

    Thanks, Ruth, I’ll look into RGT and LDTR.  It’s probably just ramping up because I purposed to work on the habit of obedience in particular over the summer.  Satan sure keeps me on my toes!

    June 3, 2011 at 11:28 am
    chatmom
    Member

    I am contemplating purchasing this – will it be appropriate for older children as well as younger?  I am thinking of 12+ y.o.

    June 4, 2011 at 4:42 am
    ruth
    Participant

    Both LDTR and RGT are great for any age kids.  They both have great suggestions and practicle tips.  The biggest thing with any habit forming is consistancy (something I really struggle with).  With an older child your tactics will be slightly different.  You may use more age appropriate natural consiquences or motivations to help with habit formation. 

    June 6, 2011 at 5:10 am
    Jennifer
    Member

    LDTR is the next book I’m going to purchase.  My 3-year-old, soon to be 4, is my strong-willed child who loves to push buttons and those of his siblings.  I need desperately (and not just for him, but for me, too) to learn ways to train him better than I am, as well as instilling good habits in my older kids as well.

    June 11, 2011 at 1:23 pm
    dreamwithpassion
    Participant

    I just started LDTR, it is practical but also very inspirational, I struggle with consistency also. It has also taught me the importance of training myself (especially the self-control topic, which was worth the cost just by itself for the wisdom it has given me.) Another book I also liked was the Positive Discipline series, they have one for Christian parents. The methods are very helpful to understanding the specific age concerns. Also highly recommended is Hints on Child Training by Trumbull. This is an older book, but very good.

    June 13, 2011 at 3:43 pm
    blue j
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    Agreeing w/ DWP… The whole bit about getting my own habits in hand as I work with my children was worth the cost of the book.  In the back of the book there is a chart, I really enjoy – then again, I’m a chart person.  Bottom line, I have decided that this book is one that I will give to new parents that I know well.  Several of the ladies in our Ambleside Education Group have said that they wish that they had this book right from the beginning.

    Pax,

    ~jacqleene

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