Prayers pls: UPDATE on daughter who had gone with Dad to live

Thanks everyone for your prayers and attention. As of 2.5 weeks ago, my dd was finally approved for a long-term residential facility. She’ll be there at least 3 mths, but hopefully 6, with schooling in a classroom with a low student/teacher ratio.

She has begun talking to me, but don’t think that would make me feel that great. The reason the insurance approved her assignment was because she refused to come home for therapy services; threatening herself.

Now, in the first week there, she all of sudden wanted to talk to me? She acts like nothing happened, like there’s been no rejection of and lying about me and her brother. There’s no diagnosis beyond depression and  anxiety yet; the shrink is observing her weekly, which is wise. my dd not only still claims her accusations are true against her dad, but she’s expanded them. Just like she expanded on the account she created around actual events. That’s generally how it works: she takes a few true things and alters and adds to them to make it a completely different account, but there’s little grains of truth here and there, she just misrepresents and totally alters the actual event (or, with her additions-totally makes them up out of whole-cloth).

She claims she’s a bisexual atheist now (and secure in her beliefs-so arrogant). Also, all of a sudden, into the zodiac. Conveniently anti-free will. In other words, “I’m a [such-and-such] so that’s why I act this way.” Even with its absurdity, I worry for her soul. She uses it as a basis for why she rejected her real-world friends for the ones online (of course, that version didn’t begin until AFTER her first acute-center stay); that her previous friends won’t accept her. So, there’s still no sign that she’d make different decisions. Of course, it’s kinda weird in her request 2 weeks ago that she, a bi/atheist, would want to go to youth fellowship on Tuesday nights…

Of course, never mind that none of her letters from girls inside these facilities have been of a romantic nature, but she has had some from boys and in the recent past, when she’s gotten caught doing wrong, she’s tried this only higher power/energy/atheist thing, my son has broken down her flimsy thoughts. If you don’t like limits, I guess it makes sense to get rid of the ultimate Limit-Setter. And she thinks of herself quite privileged and special: that she was trusted at these locations more than others, that she helped lead the meetings, that she counseled the other girls, that she was chosen specifically to room with her current one due to her “compassion and patience” blah, blah, blah; she has fantastic stories.

We have almost finished packing and will move within 2 weeks.

I would appreciate your continued prayers. My family is in great distress in her wake. I don’t want her back within 3 mths. My son needs counseling, I do. My mom’s a wreck, being betrayed by her grand-dd. Liars and thieves she can’t stand. I can’t play the game: the one where she just says that she knows the truth in herself and will just move on, despite the FACTS, despite, PROVABLE TRUTH; I can’t pretend that her false accusations haven’t damaged us and just “move forward.” She hasn’t admitted to anything except: being depressed, anxious, and “acting out” defined as stealing and lying. She hasn’t admitted to anything else. We’re all deeply hurt and angry. And I’m tired. Tired of seeing my husband in more pain than he ever deserved; tired of seeing my son hurt and wonderfully protective over me; tired of my increase in migraines and chronic pain; tired of seeing my parents, especially my mom, struggle more because of her craziness; and just her ways.

Please pray that she’s there as long as she needs to be and as long as we need her to be; we aren’t ready to have her back into our lives come Oct. 1. Please pray for proper diagnosis all and us, in general. I’m the point-person in all this and sometimes, it’s just too much. I don’t want to allow her to control our lives. Thank you.