potty training help

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  • May 6, 2009 at 3:22 pm
    nerakr
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    I’ve just begun potty training dd 21 months, and I’m having trouble figuring out how often to put her on the potty. Seems I’m always too late even trying every 30 minutes. I had trouble getting started with ds5 as well, and it took 2.5 years for it to take with him. I don’t want that to happen this time. I have cloth training pants, a couple of Stage 2 transitional pants (looks like cloth pants with plastic pants together) and a bag of Pull-ups that I intend to use only when she’s asleep or we’re out of the house for awhile. (I became too dependent on them the first time, which may have been part of the problem with ds). She’s not talking yet, at least not anything I can understand, so she can’t tell me when she needs to go. I think part of the problem is that I get focused on other things, or on my son, and fail to pick up on her signals.

    Any suggestions would be appreciated.

    Thanks,

    Karen

    May 6, 2009 at 8:35 pm
    meadowsweetmama
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    Karen, I have a really different approach but after potty training 7 children i’m still happy with it. I do nothing. When they are between 3-31/2 they start wanting to use the potty without any pushing from me. They learn within a few days and no more accidents. @1 months is young for many children. My youngest is 26 months and speaks extremely well but is not nearly ready and that is fine. It may seem long now but trust me these diaper days will soon be over. I’m hoping I have another one to come along and diaper but at 43 it doesn’t seem to be happening.

    Just the easy way out training perspective. With joy, Pamela

    May 6, 2009 at 9:12 pm
    thepinkballerina
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    I have a 6 yr old, 4 yr old and 21 mos old (also) and I’ll have to agree with Pamela that it’s easier to just wait. One of my friends got so frustrated with her DD before she turned 3 and I suggested she wait until she could hold her urine to make it to the potty. Sure enough after she backed off and let her DD mature, she was ready and trained quickly! My mom told me my grandmas would have me on the toilet every 30 min and make me sit with books til I peed and called it toilet training lol It makes me feel reassured babies at 12 mos were NOT really potty trained just mommy was. lol

    I always look for the signs that child has dry diapers for a few hrs at a time, dry through nap before starting. My 6 yr old was trainedin 3 days starting at 2 yrs and 4 mos. My 4 yr old not until 3 yrs old for pee and almost 4 until she would poop on the potty (out of stubbornness). Now she’s a champ! My 21 mo old has gone 2 times on potty but first thing in a.m. before bath. I’m excited about this and will continue to slowly get her used to what a potty is for and watch for when she has more muscle control otherwise it’s frustration on both my part and Sophie’s. Plus she looks at me like I’m nuts when I say “Yeah you went pee-pee on the potty!” She hasn’t made the mental connection yet and she’s a pretty smart cookie in most areas always knowing how to do things.

    To make a long story short, lol I’d wait until your child is showing signs she is ready for potty training. For now it doesn’t hurt to have it out and put her on it before bath, after meals etc just for routine…then when showing signs take-er-away!

    Tara

    May 10, 2009 at 11:28 pm
    richpond
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    Hi Karen,

    I’m a little late but I thought I would add my 2 cents worth. I agree with Pamela and Tara. Waiting a little longer doesn’t hurt if anything it “hurts” less. 😆

    I usually wait until my child can pull his/her shorts down by themselves and get up on the stool. I use a potty seat on the regular toilet..easier for me and easier when we are out somewhere else.

    It doesn’t help me to potty train if my child can’t go by themselves at home (for the most part). I have 5 children 8yr and under so “I have my hands full” as they say 🙂 so to have to juggle taking my 2 yr old every 30 min. was not possible (for me). So waiting until they are 2.5 works well for us. Some of my dc were trained at 2.5 others at 3.

    HTH

    Shelly

    May 11, 2009 at 6:34 pm
    Bookworm
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    I have to add one more voice to the “wait” crowd. What you are really describing, Karen, is training YOU and not the child. That never worked for us. I tried, since one is “supposed” to have a child trained at 2, or, max, 3. I tried everything. 🙂 I finally ended up with the approach that I tell them about it, buy them the new undies, make sure they understand the general idea, have them put their new undies in their dresser, and then tell them to come and get me when they are ready. I think if I’d tried to force my oldest son, he still might not be “trained” LOL OK, that’s extreme, but he was really resisting me, and I finally just decided it wasn’t worth the hassle. He did not come and get me until he was four (he was READING first, lol) but then, that was it. Not a single accident, ever. Same for the next two, although they both ended up doing it at about 3 1/2. No fusses, no worries, no fights, no accidents–a few raised eyebrows from the well-meaning and nosy, but we lived through that. 🙂

    I’m with Pamela, diaper days are sweet. Don’t wish them away too fast. I still miss the fun couple of minutes focusing on just that child, I always picked a poem or two to recite at diaper changing time and sang a song or started naming body parts or just kissed toes. I didn’t even mind having more than one in diapers–just meant, just like nursing, that there were certain times I KNEW I’d be focusing on just one, and I really looked forward to that. Early mommy-child dates. LOL

    May 14, 2009 at 2:08 am
    Shanna
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    I am a “waiter” also. It really is so much easier when they are ready rather than trying to get them out of the diapers.

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