i told myself not to answer this post…i think it might be a can of worms so to speak.
but i couldn’t stay away…here goes.
i potty trained my first boy right before or right as he turned 3.
i just finished with my second boy right as or after he turned 2. It was actually a bit harder with the 2 year old as he had to learn some things that the three y/o knew. but the 2 y/o was not afraid of the potty and the 3 y/o was.
that said, you can not MAKE a child use the potty. what i mean is you can’t discipline for not peeing or pooping. but you can discipline for not sitting on the potty when you say so or when the timer goes off (preferred). and of course, discipline for the fit no matter if it stems from his rebelling against going.
i suggest a tiny wonderful book called: The Potty Boot Camp by Dr. Suzanne Riffel. It outlines all the methods and sort of combines the positives. We have a Potty Party Day…and we leave diapers behind right then. We don’t go back. Although there are exceptions to that, we went ahead and got out the pullups when he got sick with diarrehea and had no control–and with boy #2 we chose to use pullups at night and nap, though many times he is dry then too. (Unlike heavy sleeper #1 where I changed so many sheets b/c we said no to pullups or anything ever!) Potty Party Day is INTENSE…and for #2 boy it took about a week…he had a learning curve–ah, it’s not a hose, oh, look i got mama’s foot–she’s not happy, oh tuck means tuck…got it, oh, i can take down my own pants, wow, etc. My husband on about day 5 saved everything by grabbing that little book and reading it himself. And yes, we had him clean up his messes himself and everything…which is hardest on the mama let me tell you! But he goes potty and is dry even after going out for hours w/o a potty in sight and within a couple of weeks stopped going to his little potty and climbed up on the big boy by himself…YEAH! He does have a occasional accident. Normally if he is locked into something. I need to remind then and sometimes I forget. Also, though he got disciplined for not obeying if he refused to go sit on the potty after I told him, he is happy, well adjusted and there is no weirdness about the potty!
The 3 y/o took about 2 days. I think he “got” it on day 2. But I had been diligent to work on the fear issue BEFORE “Potty Party Day”. AND let me tell you, Potty Party Day is all out…exhuberant, exhaustive, excitement…WILD. And for my less than that personality…it is a real stretch…but I pull out my acting talent (that I don’t have or do and don’t know it)…and ta da…it happens…then maintenance mode with the timer starts…which is pretty hard too…then suddenly it’s pretty much over unless you look down at the child and think…has he peed at all today…then you jump back in and say go! or you look at your child holding himself and dancing and say…what are you doing? GO!
Get rid of the weirdness about the potty and training. And seperate the obedience from the actual learning needing to take place. One you can enforce…one comes in time… and you can do this.
I really do highly recommend that book. http://www.amazon.com/POTTY-BOOT-CAMP-Training-Toddlers/dp/1601455194/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1312221223&sr=8-1
hth and hope you are like not really mad at me. I suspect that I am about to be very unpopular. hate that.
jo