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Potty language
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Dear all wise mamas,
I’m seeking help because I’m at my wits end. I have 3 boys, 6, 4 and 2 mo.It has been awhile since the two older ones got into potty language habit. At the beginning, I thought of ignoring that and it’ll go away naturally. It didn’t. Then gradually it turned into plugging those vocabularies into other people’s names. And we started punishment every time they say those words. The frequency of that speech decreases a little, but whenever we didn’t punish consistently, it came back. Now it has progressed into plugging the language into the hymns they learned, even scripture!! The more things I taught them, the more it turns into that area. You can imagine they do that to the Lord’s name, too!! Please help me so that they can tame their tongues!
I’m guessing that they like the attention they are getting when they say those words. Some kids actually enjoy negative attention and will take the consequences to get it. My suggestion would be to give them a 1 minute break (something like a time out) every time they say a word they shouldn’t. Don’t tell them why they’re taking a break, don’t engage in any discussion about the break, and especially don’t show any emotion when telling them to take a break. When the break is over, don’t lecture or tell or ask them what they did. They almost always know (although sometimes they might not want to admit it). The website http://www.raisinglions.com has more info on how to give breaks and some short videos on how they should look. This approach has worked better than anything else I’ve tried for my strong-willed boys who have been simply unfazed by any consequences we’ve ever tried.
I used to put a drop of hot sauce or vinegar or some unpleasant thing on their tongue to remind them that their language is distasteful. That our words should be pleasing to God. We only had a short stint with potty talk though so maybe this wouldnt help. I love the idea of cleaning the toilet!
We did the same as retrofam – clean the toilet for potty talk.
Now that the kids are older they don’t talk like that anymore. 😉
For my kids, I gave an allowed time of “potty talk” that would last 15 minutes at night time. We set ground rules that they couldn’t call people names but were otherwise allowed to say all the potty words they knew without consequence. It would be just one child and a parent and we would sit and listen to them and not give any reaction. We were clear that this was the only allowed time for potty talk. If they said anything outside of this time we would remind them they had to wait until night. Once they were allowed to say these words and realized that during the time there was no one laughing at them, the novelty quickly wore off. After a couple of weeks I would even ask, “do we need to do potty talk?” and they would reply, “no, I’m good”
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