My condolances!
Well, my 2 cents is reading a lot, getting out in nature, a bit of work on math and phonics is probably enough until you and your kids are out of the fog from greif, unless you are feeling the need to get more of a normal routine in your life… a need for you, not an “I really should”…..
Then slowly add in one more thing at a time as you feel ready.
With being in a fog and all that is going on, I’d recommend following someone elses lead instead of trying to plan your own (for now)…. and as halpful as AO is… (I was an AO’r) I think it would be way too much and make you feel like you aren’t accomplishing what you should…. and as your children would be in seperate “paths” so to speak, it would be more for you, which I don’t think you need right now.
So – money tends to be a HUGE issue for me (like even a few dollars is a problem) so I haven’t done these, but I have looked at the samples….. anyway – I think if you felt ready to add history, I would look at the SCM modules and pick one… maybe be which have books you mostly get online or at the library. The guides are really not that expensive and are very helpful without being too restrictive. I don’t think it is too hard to substitute if you can’t find one. The kids would be working in the same time, some of the work is done together, and I think you would find it a lot easier on you than AO or some other CM “curriculums”.
Don’t get me wrong. AO is great, the people are very helpful, and maybe it is right for your family (but I wouldn’t try it all right now while you are still in a fog with grief.) I used it for a couple of years, but was always feeling stressed because we were “behind schedule” or my son wasn’t understanding the books, etc. That said, he did eventually like some of the books that he had hated (and some he still hates… heck, a few I still hate….) I felt a GREAT sense of release when I left it.
I might be rambling a bit….