First of all, I want to say what a good mom you are! You are trying to make positive changes for you and your dd.
Second…relax. It will happen, but maybe not all at once. Changing everything at once may very well be overwhelming, so pick a few “subjects” and keep adding new ones. This will be a fluid journey…you will find some books work and others don’t. Don’t be afraid to adjust and realign! 
Thirdly, I would highly recommend the seminars by Sonya here @ SCM. She has the most gentle way of guiding you and truly simplifying the whole process.
If you can’t afford that right now or just want to start immediately, this site has some good guidance:
http://homepages.rootsweb.ancestry.com/~cheps/organized.html
And lastly, don’t compare yourself to others! There may be examples you see online that make you think “I’d never be that good or do that much.” Just re-write those thoughts if they pop up and remind yourself that we are STRIVING for better but we will never be perfect! Just like in our walk with the Lord! Be patient with yourself and your dd. Learn together and learn more about each other.
God will show you how! Be still!
Blessings,
from someone who is still learning and trying to do better herself!
Oh, and I wanted to add some sites with free materials:
http://www.mainlesson.com/main/displayarticle.php?article=feature
http://www.heritage-history.com/www/heritage.php
http://oldfashionededucation.com/
http://www.amblesideonline.org/
The last one may be a little overwhelming (still is for me a little), but it’s a great source of information.