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OT: Helping my husband with prayer and accepting Jesus
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Hi, I will try to make this short. I am looking for some reading, verses in the bible, or anything else that might be helpful for my husband. He attends church and all I don’t think he really believes and certainly doesn’t live like he believes. I have been praying for him for years to accept Jesus. Now, the government shut down has become very challenging for him. He says he prays but doesn’t feel better….so he doesn’t pray much. I want so much for him to just love God, live for Him, and experience the love and peace of God. But I don’t think he has really accepting and given his life to Jesus.
I would love some verses or passages, or books of the bible that might help him. I am not really versed in the bible yet myself and don’t know where to direct him. Is there something that he might read that would encourage him to really give his live to Jesus?
Thanks for any wisdom that you can share!!
pa m
I will pray for you and your husband, and ask God to bring other men into his life to model the Christian walk, and befriend and mentor him. Praying for a heart-change, and for your family during this shutdown. Continue being faithful to pray for him!
Vanessa
1 peter 3 talks about how an unbelieving husband will be won over NOT by his wife’s words but by her actions. I would ask him to pray for you randomly. Like “honey I’m having a really hard day with the kids today, could you please pray for me?” Also, asking him question that come up for you during our quiet time, where he will want to know the answer (because he IS the leader of the home, even if he doesn’t lead it) he may go and start looking for the answers which will get him in the Word. Praying for you!
Kayla
This book has been so inspiring to me. It is the diary of Elisabeth Leseur, a Catholic woman from late 19th century France, who was married to an unbeliever. Her husband, in fact, was hostile toward the faith.
Elisabeth, though, lived as God commanded, loving her husband and praying for him – and, in fact, keeping quiet about her faith so as not to inflame her husband!! The story is amazing, an absolute inspiration.
Although Leseur was Catholic (as am I), I think her testimony is pertinent to all Christians.
I second the book above I also catholic & a dh Lutheran you’d think wed be pretty close but we are not. God has pushed me forward in my faith & He maybe trying with my dh but if so I only see baby steps. I read that book & stepped back. Only then did I see these baby steps and thank God for them instead of asking Him ‘for’ things with my dh.I think she was such an inspiration to wives that every women should read it.
You specifically asked for scripture, so here are a few that come to mind:
1 John – read the whole book, over and over and over
2 Corinthians 13:5 “Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves” The Bible encourages us to “examine ourselves” to see if we really believe (“are in the faith”).
verses that walk you throught the gospel can be found here (I started to type them out but supper is looming and I’m running out of time 🙂
What is the Gospel? by Greg Gilbert is a great book.
The Holy Spirit is in the business of salvation. You can help clear the obstacles to faith in your husband’s heart by living a godly life, with the peace of God at its center. As you grow closer to the Lord, your husband will be won over without being ‘preached at’.
Just pick up your Bible every day, and the Living God will show you what He wants you to pray and what He wants you to learn. He is always growing us closer to Him. It is a relationship (friendship) with the Lord. That is what matters to God. Our holiness or sanctification is a natural fruit of the Holy Spirit living inside us…”Not by works, so no man can boast”. Ephesians 2:9
It is possible that your husband is seeking God, being drawn by the Holy Spirit, or is actually saved but immature in the faith. Either way, “To his own master each man stands or falls”. Romans 14:4.
Concentrate on growing in your own faith and relationship with Jesus and let your husband’s relationship with the Lord develop in time. Your responsibility is your friendship with God, not your husband’s – though I certainly understand that you want God’s best for him!
My husband is in a difficult place now and his men’s group is studying Psalm 37 and 73 – about not ‘fretting’ but taking all things to God. I hope you and your husband will both benefit from these verses as you “Cast your cares upon Him, for He cares for you.” Ephesians 5:7
“Tender Warrior” by Stu Webber is my husband’s favorite men’s book :). Remember that we are growing closer and closer to God every day. As Proverbs 4:18 says:
“The way of the righteous is like the first gleam of dawn, which shines ever brighter until the full light of day.”
Someday, we who know Christ will stand in the ‘full light of day’ and see Him face to face. I will pray that your husband will be there too!!
Thank you everyone!!! This is so humbling to me to read-all your responses remind me that I am not in control of my husband’s destiny and that I can not save him!!! My “preaching” will only turn him off, and the best thing I can do is live my life as a godly wife–sometimes it just gets so lonely, though! I am looking forward to reading the diary of Elisabeth Leseur-thank you so much for this recommendation!!! I also will look into Tender Warrior.
Thank you all so much for helping me to “reset” my focus on my relationship with God-and for the prayers! I know in my heart that I can’t give him God, but some days when he is suffering, I just wish I could!! The best thing I can do is to live my own life according to what God calls me do.
I LOVE the message board and all you wise ladies!
pam
Praying for you and your husband! AS mentioned, it is a work of the Holy Spirit to bring people to salvation…but I know you want to be an encouragement which is a blessing! Are you in a church where people are passionate and committed to the Gospel? Is the Gospel clearly taught there? If not, would you and your dh consider finding a church that would really come along side your family and help you to grow? That has been so important for our family. Also, are there men in your church who would come along side of your dh to encourage him? You don’t want to “orchestrate this” but it is something that should naturally happen (your family should be shepherded by the elders/leaders of your church).
I know this may not apply to you, but thought I would mention it as I see these things having played a big role for us. We were in a church where we were not hearing the Gospel clearly, being exhorted and shepherded, etc., and by God’s grace, came to a church where these things were in place.
I so hear your heart and I know you are a great blessing to your dh! Let us know how it goes!
Kristina
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