One habit at a time

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  • June 23, 2014 at 3:29 pm
    mayneisland
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    A little confused.  When we work on one habit for 6-8 weeks what exactly are we working on?  For example, we are working on obedience.  There are lots of areas to work, we’d like the kids to put the computers in our room when their time is up instead of waiting for us to tell them that their time is up and we’d like them to be in bed with lights off at a certain time.  The kids are 14 and 12 so very capable of both these tasks.  Do we work on putting the computer in our room for 6-8 weeks and then move on to lights off for 6-8 weeks or do we work on all aspects of obedience within the 6-8 weeks?  Also, my younger children have attention issues and I’d like to work on those with them can I do that at the same time as working on obedience with the older ones or will this drive me nuts? — or perhaps the time thing with the older children is more of an attention issue (making sure to pay attention to the time?)?  How would you approach this?

    June 23, 2014 at 4:36 pm
    anniepeter
    Participant

    I have a similar situation in my family…and we chose to start with attention for the reason you mentioned at the end. They are so intertwined. Specifically, we are doing attention to duty right now.

    June 29, 2014 at 4:13 am
    blue j
    Participant

    This is my response to someone with the same question on a CM FB group to which I belong:

    Start with the habit of attention for yourself and your children. Give your husband your full, undivided attention when he is talking to you. Give your children your full, undivided attention when they come to you. Put down any phone or other electronic gadget if that is something you tend to have on hand, and listen, really and truly listen. Expect the children to do the same. This is the foundation for all of the other habits because if you can’t give your attention, the others will not stand a chance as that is the basis for all of them. Consequently, this can be THE. HARDEST. HABIT to grasp. Others might be a challenge, but when I have taken a look at why *I* am having trouble with in a particular area, the embarrassing truth is usually that I have allowed my habit of attention to slacken.

    Just my $.02.

    June 29, 2014 at 6:32 pm
    jlc123
    Participant

    blue j, wow; I am realizing how much I do not do that as I read what you wrote. I can see why that is such a great place to start! Thanks

    June 29, 2014 at 8:43 pm
    Nina
    Participant

    Thank you blue j. I sooooo needed to hear that.

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