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  • June 4, 2012 at 1:40 pm
    momto2blessings
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    Just wondering if anybody might have tactful advice for me to handle a neighbor situation.  Their son told mine (both about 10yo) that their dad had a ‘worse than R rated movie’ and told him the rating.  Ds doesn’t know what that means, thankfully. The family is very nice and has a church and my previous talk w/the mom sounds like Christians…but they don’t seem to go very often.  I’ve been comfortable letting my kids (dd’s are friends, too) play there until now. Not sure what to do.

    I’d be comfortable enough talking to the mom and I know she’d say the kids wouldn’t be allowed in the dad’s basement ‘man cave.’ She has said he even cleans it…her own kids aren’t allowed down there alone.  However, we still wouldn’t be comfortable because it would just take one time for their son to sneak it into his room, etc.  Their home is central and sort of a play hub for the neighbor kids.  We’re blessed to live in a nice neighborhood w/lots of nice, church-going families, stay-at-home moms.  I plan to start a neighborhood women’s study next Fall.  Just not sure how to tactfully handle this to protect are kids (priority) and not offend the neighbor or gossip if asked, etc.  It will eventually come up because my kids used to play there a lot.  Thanks for any wisdom…dh and I are trying to figure out how best to handle this! Blessings, Gina

    June 4, 2012 at 5:20 pm
    Sara B.
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    I would bring it up quietly with the mom (or your dh to the dad) and say my son said your son said this. See what they say. It may be the mom doesn’t know what’s in her dh’s “man cave,” and I would think she would want to know this. Not that you want to break up a marriage, either, but if she acts surprised or hurt, you can then gently suggest counseling with their pastor. If your dh talks to the dad, maybe he would be quietly convicted – or deny it, but it will pester his mind – and chances are, he doesn’t know his son knows about those movies. I’d suspect the neighbor kid has already been in that room without anyone knowing.

    I hope this helps, and I will say some prayers for you all.

    June 4, 2012 at 5:47 pm
    momto2blessings
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    Thanks for the prayers and advice, Sara. I appreciate it. I’m just heading to the park now to see the mom and talk to her about it.  We just asked her son over a bit ago and she said just send my son down there….so need to address right away:(   I’m not sure, but I’m wondering  how the son knows and have thought that maybe the parents were fighting about it. I sure hope he hasn’t seen anything.  Prayers for me to show love and wisdom would be great:)  Thanks! Gina

    June 4, 2012 at 6:51 pm
    momto2blessings
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    Sara, I prayed and was nervous but it went very well.  I’m pretty sure it was all a misunderstanding.  She said her husband/son have XXX racing games/movies (that’s the name not the rating!) and that there was nothing like I was thinking in the house. Feel much better…she said to ask her son because she was curious…so I think it’s all o.k.  All that concern for nothing, I hope! Thanks for praying:) Gina

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