I have a dd(age 6) who sounds similar to yours, minus the behavior problems.
I also have a ds age 17 with dyslexia and dyscalclia, as well as a dd 10 with math struggles.
So many things come to mind. Have you read the books “The Right Side of Normal” and “The Dyslexia Empowerment Plan”? Both should help with specific ideas.
After reading The Right Side of Normal, as well as other unschooling books, I could see how unschooling or relaxed homeschooling are a great thing for right brained learners.
I am implementing some of the ideas, but am still using some curriculum, especially for highschool and math.
You can PM me for specifics.
For dd10 for math I discovered that she learns math facts best through song. I stopped the visual stories and went back to Math U See skip counting songs. We wrote a song for the 12 facts to “Wheels on the Bus”.
I like Child1st.com materials for reading, math, and spelling. Check out her blog for teaching tips and great advice.
For dd6 I stopped with the reading curriculum and let her play with the pieces of the kit, which include Snapwords cards with pictures,words, and motions, an alphabet story, readers, etc.
That is the key for her, let her choose what she wants to do and be ready to engage with her. She will do hours of learning this way, versus me following a lesson plan and constantly having to regain her attention. When she is interested she retains much more and maintains focus fine.
Study your dd and you will find how she learns best. My dd6 loves copywork. She learns to read and spell by taking notes at church because the pastor writes the main points on a board and says what they are as he writes. She copies them and loves it!
I gave her the Queen’s math facts copywork book to do for “fun” as she wants.
I am going to use Math U See for pre algebra on up for my crew, besides adding a few others such as Bridgeway, Hands on Equations, Patty Paper Geometry, and Make Math Meaningful Algebra, and some of the Key to algebra, key to … books.
A lot of times behavioral problems are worse with school work when the work is difficult. If you follow her lead in areas you can and observe how she learns best, she will show you what she needs.
I started a blog that I will announce soon, about my curriculum choices. I am learning so much from my children and other homeschool families.
Hang in there!