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June 7, 2008 at 3:23 am
Rachel White
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I desperately need some help here. Do any of you have recommendations on books about purity and innocence? Fact based is fine concerning “growing up”, but nothing that feeds unnatural curiousities. But also stories that teach about having pure thoughts and deeds and proper views of the body G-d gave us. Also, on protecting yourself (as a child) from other’s curiousity about your body and wanting to , shall we say, do things. Written for both boys and girls. I’ve tried to be tactful and not be inappropriate, but please if you know of any let me know.
Thanks and please pray for our family,
Rachel
June 7, 2008 at 11:37 am
JenKeithley
Member
Rachel,
I don’t know of any books, but am praying for your family.
Jen
June 7, 2008 at 2:11 pm
CindyS
Participant
Rachel,
What ages are your children? The scriptures come to mind about maintaining your vessel in sanctity and honor and also treating boys/girls as brothers/sisters. I can look up the exact references if you’d like.
Blessings,
Cindy
June 7, 2008 at 2:51 pm
dolot3
Participant
Rachel,
I have read books written by Elisabeth Elliot on the topic of purity. There are three books in which she addresses this important issue. They are as follows: Passion and Purity; Let Me Be A Woman; and The Mark of a Man. She has a website where you can read more about her. She was the wife of the missionary, Jim Elliot, who was killed by the Auca Indians. She later moved to their village and worked as a missionary among them.
Any way the website is http://www.elisabethelliot.org – you can also find her books in other places, too. They do give discounts for any direct orders.
Also, http://www.queenhomeschool.com also has purity books for both girls and boys, at least they did :).
Timberdoodle also used to carry books written by young men and women about purity and courtship.
Hope this helps! Will be praying for your family.
Lori
June 7, 2008 at 6:42 pm
Julie
Member
Hi Rachel,
Below is a website I ran across about a year ago that has a lot of information and book recommendations for both boys and girls of all ages. Here’s their mission statement, “Generations of Virtue is a volunteer-driven ministry committed to providing parents and teenagers with resources to fight the good fight for purity. We work with parents, teens, churches, and homeschooling groups to equip today’s generation for one of the most critical battles our culture faces–the battle for purity of heart, mind and body.”
http://www.generationsofvirtue.org
Praying for you and your family.
Julie
June 7, 2008 at 11:40 pm
Rachel White
Participant
I have a boy-7 1/2 and a girl just turned 7. We adopted her, and the problem we’re dealing with is steming from her time in foster care before age three that are causing her to act out in various ways. She has unnatural behaviors and curiosities.
Queen homeschool does have the boy and girl’s series. I just wanted someone’s take on them before I spent the money. Tey looked good. I have “The Story of me”, I’ve had for a while. I’m not too crazy about it. I haven’t read it to them. The second book especially, I think, presents too much info. too soon; even from “Christian” persective. I don’t think we ‘re supposed to arouse curiosity in them by presenting too much “married activites” detailed info. too soon. Also, I think it destroys protective modesty to teach her names and functions of a male and vise versa at such a young age. But we’re having to put purity in where it has been taken.
I believe in the purifying and renewing power of The Spirit to cleanse minds and undo what she was exposed to; to bind right thoughts and “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things”. The L-rd did impress upon me the need to make that our memory verse. His Word transforms the heart, mind and body. It’s just a matter of how to practically deal w/the aftermath w/in our lives and home w/her wrong ideas on interrelating w/others.
Cindy-I would like to know the verse. I recognize it vaguely; just can’t remmeber it either.
Thanks everyone. If there’s anything else you think of or books you come across I would appreciate it. Our society is so messed up.
Thank you for your prayers,
Rachel
June 8, 2008 at 1:51 am
CindyS
Participant
1 Thessalonians 4:4 That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour.
1 Timothy 5:1,2 Rebuke not an elder, but intreat him as a father; and the younger men as brethren; The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity.
Psalm 37:4 Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. – This tells us what to do up until the point God calls us to marriage (always remembering that Jesus may call our daughters to be his bride alone).
Romans 1:21 (and continuing) Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.
Teaching purity, I think, rests on Romans 1. You can read on and find the ultimate in God’s turning over a person to sin. It is chilling. But it is also encouraging because, if all sexual sin stems from a lack of thankfulness and honor, then we know just what to teach.
Purity can be taught in the most mundane of circumstances because we are pointing our children to constantly be thankful and constantly honor God in all circumstances. We have many, “What can you be thankful for?” converstations. Also, encouragement for the child to tell God, “I do not want to obey, but I will honor you, Lord.”
So, to that end, we will read books about people who were thankful, people who honored God in the most difficult of circumstances, make up stories based on Proverbs, teach our little ones to make ‘winner’s choices’, and make up stories to tell them. Use the 3 minute rule: You have the child in front of you for 3 minutes max. Tell her a story, then go on with what you were doing. Do this two or three times a day.
And here is the glorious promise:
Joel 2:25
And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you.
2 Thess. 2:16-17 Now our Lord Jesus Christ himself, and God, even our Father, which hath loved us, and hath given us everlasting consolation and good hope through grace, Comfort your hearts, and stablish you in every good word and work.
Praying for you,
Cindy
June 8, 2008 at 9:39 pm
JenKeithley
Member
Rachel,
I have two birth children and two adopted children… all close in age. In addition to the wonderful verses that everyone has passed on, I’d just like to encourage you to pray. Pray against unnatural desires in your children. Pray against the enemy who wants to steal, kill, and destroy. Also pray for healing and restoration. God himself said the true gospel is taking care of widows and orphans. He is good and gracious delights to deliver these little ones.
Someone gave me really great advice in dealing with our children and purity. Be as honest as you feel free to be with your little girl and ask her to be honest with you. In my experience, when I react to a situation by being visibly disturbed or ashamed of a behavior, it shuts the child down. Then he doesn’t feel like he can tell me what happened. Instead… I have found wonderful conversations that happen when I am wandering throughout the day and one of my girls asks
…why boys don’t always wear shirts, but girls do
…what bras are
…why they keep the door shut when they change their clothes.
I try to keep my girls close to me and model modesty for them. When something “off” happens, I try to pull the child aside for time with Mommy (or Daddy, if it’s one of the boys). Then, I try to get to the bottom of why she was doing whatever she was doing. If your little girl was abused at three and she’s seven now, she might not even know why she’s doing some things. Then, you can instruct gently and move on.
I’d love to chat with you more about this, especially as it concerns adoption. If you’re interested, please feel free to contact me… jenkeithley@gmail.com
June 11, 2008 at 5:17 pm
Mamasong
Member
Two of our favorites are “The Princess and the Kiss” and “The Garden Wall” by Jennie Bishop. She gently weaves high morals regarding purity through these sweet stories. We have found that our children, at first, fell in love with the stories and then began to ask questions and spark discussions. She also wrote another book “The Squire and the Scroll” which is fantastic especially for boys! Hope they can become special books for your family, too!
Mamasong
June 12, 2008 at 12:27 pm
Rachel White
Participant
cindy-thank you for the enocouragement. After praying on the Scriptures, I can see how lack of contented heart leads to overindulgence in anything and leads to pleasuring self. However, I’m struggling to connect that w/my daughter’s problems, though will still pray in that direction.
Jen-I’ll be in touch. Thank you for your interest and concern. This is frustrating, though I know not too complicated for The L-rd.
Mamasong- We actually do have those books and they both enjoy them. They are written beautifully.
One thing I haven’t mentioned is she has always confused human behavior w/animal behavior. Numerous times we’ve had to interupt her from imitating animals. In fact, her words to me were that she loves animals and wants to do the same things that they do. so disturbed by this continuing perspective of total confusion of the separate behaviors for humans and animals, I know The L-rd impresed an “idea” onto my mind to help “train” her mindset and thoughtlife. An idea that actually saddens me a bit, too. She was so untrained as a person and allowed to behave like an animal those first 3 years that she’s confused.
That idea is not using any books w/her that attribute human behavior and characteristics to animals. It makes sense to me for her and I’m thankful G-d impressed it upon me, but it makes me sad. I adore those stories so. So I’m hunting for alternatives. My son can read them no prob-so he will use them as independant reads and even personal ones between just the two of us.
Rachel
June 12, 2008 at 7:00 pm
CindyS
Participant
Rachel,
I will be praying for you; do you have a pastor that is helping you through this?
Cindy
June 13, 2008 at 1:07 am
Rachel White
Participant
Yes, though we’re Messianic Jews so actually it’s a Rabbi. Also, our home fellowship leaders, one other set of leadership (they’re always a husband and wife leadership team called SHAMASHEEN which in Hebrew is servant leaders)who, the wife, went through a similar experience as a child; and other trusted prayers warriors in our sisterhood and Christian friends.
Thank you so much. It’s only by G-d’s healing power and shalom on us as a family.She is complicated.
Good news though, I finally got her eval. appt. for occupational, physical and speech therapies made today which is a relief in her neurological, developmental and sensory areas. Her last therapists couldn’t see her anymore as of last winter so she’s been w/o since then and I can tell.
Thank you,
Rachel
August 5, 2008 at 7:03 pm
csmamma
Participant
Hi Rachel,
I just sent a response to a thread originally posted by misty about purity for boys – but hey I thought of you, dear friend, also. Sandi Queen has a new book called “The Boy and the Rose” its a parable about purity. Maybe you already know about it but just incase you don’t, you can find it on their website. 😉
Hugs!
Heather
August 5, 2008 at 9:48 pm
Rachel White
Participant
Thank you Heather. Bless you for thinking of me. I’m going to look into that book. I’m going to purchase a few of her products this year. I also posted on the other and I will here, too. I discovered a discussion guide to “The Squire and the Scroll” and The Princess and the Kiss” at rainbow resource:
http://www.rainbowresource.com/product/Life+Lessons+from+the+Squire+and+the+Scroll/037900/1217972615-1314416
and:
http://www.rainbowresource.com/product/Life+Lessons+from+the+Princess+and+the+Kiss/037899/1217972615-1314416
Rachel
August 6, 2008 at 11:44 am
csmamma
Participant
Hey Rachel!
We have the Squire and the Scroll study quide along with the book -they are wonderful! Just to give you a heads up, however – once we got the study guide, we realized that it’s designed to go through with Dad if possible. I’m sure the Princess and the Kiss is meant to go through with Mama. Hope you enjoy them!
Blessings to you and yours!
Heather