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My oldest left for college-need comfort!
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I ‘m feeling like I could use some comfort. My oldest child left for college a couple days ago. Some of you might know, he’s the one that graduated 2 years ago and has been going to our community college since then. He has also been struggling with Lyme Disease for that length of time or more. Well, he did all he could do here and now he’s off to BYU Idaho. I’m in Ohio. My husband took him there and is spending a few days getting him settled in his apartment, but he’s leaving him this morning, and it’s just about to break my heart. My son is totally ready and totally excited, but we worry about him because of the health issues.
He has had 2 negative Lyme Disease tests and in December if it comes out negative again, they’ll declare it gone; but the effects are far reaching. He hasn’t started to heal yet, so he can’t walk far or use much muscle strength. His muscles still pull and don’t heal yet. He’s also dealing with a very slow healing removed toenail that should have been all better by now.
He still has to eat a special diet-candida style, so he has to spend a lot of time cooking. We got him a kick scooter to get the mile to classes, but it ends up that it’s uphill going home. The pictures looked so flat! Now he has a cold on top of it all.
Besides all that-I REALLY like him! You know we homeschool and end up with a special relationship, and we end up really enjoying being with our kids. He’s one of the best people to talk to, and since my husband is a pilot and I have health challenges of my own, I’ve relied on having him here. The others are more needy and much younger.
So I’m just sad. Some encouragement and prayers would be very helpful for me right now. Homeschooling has been very hard for us the past several months too. I feel like I’m drowning, and my kids are actually not learning.
Thanks for your thoughts.
Angela
Angela,
You must be teaching them something. You have one in college. 🙂 When my daughter left for college I felt the same way. If I would have known before he left I would have suggested you go with them. It helped me immensely. I thought of her having fun instead of all the dread. Maybe you could go out for a quick visit. It would make you feel better. I know the oldest is the one you rely on the most. My second oldest followed suite though and stepped up and took over the oldest ones place. You will see if you rely on the next one in line they may surprise you. 🙂
I hope you feel better. I hate the empties!!! Wish I had more comfort for you. Just know I feel your pain.
Praying for you!
Aww, Angela, I’m so sorry you’re missing him and worrying! We’re LDS and in Ohio too – where are you? (we’re east of Columbus). You’ve given him a great start and we both know Heavenly Father will take care of him. ((HUGS))
I dropped mine off a few weeks ago and it was pretty hard. I’m blessed that he’s less than two hours away, but he has health challenges that I was really worried about, too. So far he’s doing really well, but he is very susceptible to illness and has 5 roommates <sigh>. I still worry a LOT. But, he is having so much fun and growing SO much and in so many ways. It’s been interesting to make the “parenting change” necessary, too. I’ve had to work hard on that. Not doing it perfectly yet, but I AM a lot less of a “helicopter mom” than some of what I’ve seen. (One of ds’s roomie’s moms put away all his clothes FOR him–including his underwear–with all roomies and parents in the tiny little suite, and kept asking him questions like “Where do you want your strap?” LOL I did NOT do that! (although I did get in trouble for offering to make up his bed–it was way up high on the top bunk.) Pretty much I’ve decided my role is now to smile a lot, say lots of supportive things, and send lots of cookies. 🙂 He is also actually one of my best friends–one of my favorite people to be around. I miss him SO MUCH (he’d have been GREAT to watch all the political convention coverage with!) I know it’s hard. I’ll keep you in prayer, but he has a Parent watching over him all the time. You’ll never stop worrying of course—but believe in him. This is what we’ve been raising and teaching them for–so they can move on and have a fulfilling life of their own. We’re doing the right things. Really makes you realize how Heavenly Father has felt sending us all down here, doesn’t it??
Hugs and sympathy,
Michelle
Ladies,
I forgot to thank you for the comfort and sympathy and prayers you offered. It was very helpful. I’m doing ok thanks to family prayer every morning on skype. We really are blessed that our son is not the homesick type, but misses us an appropriate amount. He has a homesick roommate that decided to sleep instead of going to church Sunday.
Tristan–we’re in Dayton. I wonder if I’ve seen you at the Temple. We’re going this Saturday.
Thank you all again
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