Manners for a tween

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  • rhondajennings68
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    Yes, I have taught my son manners but apparently, he has forgotten them now that he is a tween.  Any books or thoughts about motivation?  Before anyone suggests taking away his food, I absolutely don’t do that.  I adopted him from Russia when he was 13 months old and he had serious food issues and had suffered from a lack of nutrition.  Taking food from him has never been a punishment.  I am looking for motivation along the lines of “now that you are young man…, being a good role model for younger kids…”etc

    sarah2106
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    Raising Real Men is a great resource. Their book is fantastic. They have raised boys ((and 2 daughters) and their Biblical insight is so encouraging and helpful.

    For my son he really likes books and movies, so naturally finding stories with strong Biblical male characters has been a good way to reach him. There is a series by Chuck Black, Kingdom Series, that my son loves, the knights and all that really gets him thinking. Ralph Moody has a fantastic series about his life growing up, starting with Little Britches, as a rancher. His dad passed away when he was 12 (I think it was) so it really addresses boys stepping up into responsible roll and helping the family. It has some “rough/cowboy” language but for us we not too much, just here and there not entire book, maybe read first if you are concerned.

    Behind the Mask is a Christian produced movie with action and adventure with a Biblical message at the heart.

    What ever interests your son (athletics, games, books, history, sciemce…) if you can find people or events that protray that in a Biblical manor it is a good place to start. For us it has been one of the best ways to reach my son. Hearing it from someone else helps him. I avoid current athleats for example, we have had better luck going back so you can see their entire life, the ups and downs, not to get discouraged by current people’s actions, how they might let him down.

    Hope that helps 🙂

    sarah2106
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    Sugar Creek Gang is a big favorite for my kids (sons and daughters) the audios are fantastic!

    Karen Smith
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    Hal and Melanie Young’s book Raising Real Men is excellent. They have another book, No Longer Little, that helps you understand tweens that is also very good. The Youngs have free articles and podcast episodes on their Raising Real Men website, too.

    sarah2106
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    I have both books, No Longer Little and Raising Real Men, with a 12 year old I would probably go with Raising Real Men. No Longer Little is really good, but more geared toward younger tween age, Raising Real Men includes tween but geared toward older.

    The insight both give towards brain development and hormones playing a roll… very helpful for my sons and daughted. I suggest to all my friends that are struggling with the tween/teen “angst” to read it. Good practical thoughts.

    Israel Wayne with Family Renewal just came out with a new book “Raising Them Up”. I have read a couple of his, and along the line of the Young’s they are Biblical and practical. They have a large family and have graduated a couple and write from experience with a wide variety of children personalities and such.

    Those are more parenting books, so might not be what you were looking for, but I have found the more I understand how my kids brains are working, especially when flooded with hormones that are confusing and exhausting, the more prepared, calm, and grace filled, I can be when attitudes and behaviours seem over the top or when it seems like they have forgotten everything that they have been taught.

    rhondajennings68
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    Thanks for the responses!

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