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This topic has 5 replies, 6 voices, and was last updated 9 years, 8 months ago by Alicia Hart.

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August 9, 2015 at 10:30 am
vikingkirken
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We have a problem in our home with anger management and impulse control. We have too much acting on emotions (often immediately followed by an apology). No one seems to be able to stop themselves BEFORE they act… siblings hit each other; they break each others’ belongings (usually due to thoughtlessness vs malicious intent here); I yell too much when I am feeling overwhelmed… Everyone realizes it’s a problem–that isn’t the issue! It’s learning and practicing what to do instead. (One of my sons often tells me “but I don’t know HOW to not hit!”) I would love to find some books we can read together that model better ways to manage anger, frustration, or feeling overwhelmed. Hoping for some good literature suggestions, as stories seem to stick better than lecturing. Maybe some very specific suggestions for games to play, etc. My kids range from 6mo to 9yo.
I am naturally an introvert; I’m also quite sure I would have been labeled Aspergers as a child, if someone had been looking to label me. I know I’ve grown a lot (mostly from becoming a parent!) but I am rather clueless for how to help our family in this area. I think calculus might be easier to teach…!
August 9, 2015 at 2:55 pm
retrofam
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What to do when your temper Flairs is a psychology book for kids, but it has some good ideas. The other books in the series are good too, but they are pop psychology.
How Does Your Engine Run from the alert program has good ideas too.
August 9, 2015 at 3:21 pm
cedargirl
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I just did Lysa Turkersts “Unglued” with my 13yo daughter and it was EXCELLENT. I will do it with my sons as well now. She wrote it for women but the scriptures behind her methods are very applicable to all of us. I recommend the audiobook, hearing it from the authors voice is a good thing. I may purchase the bible study, we only did the book and made our own notes, highlighted scripture as it came up.
August 9, 2015 at 3:38 pm
lnosborn
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I’m not sure of literature books on the subject, though it would be nice to read some though. My kids enjoy watching Mr. Rogers, even the 8 year old, because the episodes deal with emotions and how to handle them a lot since young children are generally learning how to deal with those issues and how to get-along with others in healthy ways. Mr. Rogers talks about it and then some kind of story in the land of make-believe is played out on the topic. I quite enjoy watching them myself, and it helps me calm down too at times! We don’t watch hardly any TV episodes, even some of the educational ones are lame, but Mr. Rogers is an exception… And I think CM would approve of theater/plays 😉
I think also being able to express how you are feeling, even out loud – giving it a label that way helps our minds to handle it. Sometimes, though I need to work on this myself, just saying, “I’m very upset right now,” or, “I feel like my patience is very thin at the moment,” aloud (whether someone else hears me or not), and then going outside or doing something else maybe cleaning or hoeing the garden, something to get out the frustration in a healthy way. Then I can usually be more even-headed about dealing with it, and in that way you are modeling to your kids a healthy way to handle their frustrations.
Not exactly literature books, but hope this helps!
August 9, 2015 at 4:44 pm
Tristan
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For some reason I’m thinking Little Men by Louisa May Alcott covers acting like kind, thoughtful boys and girls instead of the alternatives. Does anyone remember for sure? I know I would preread it for sure, as one character comes with some bad habits, which he eventually overcomes, but you may not want modeled at all.
August 10, 2015 at 10:15 am
Alicia Hart
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I SO sympathize with you in this area!
There might be some suggestions in Laying Down the Rails.
Some other books that come to mind that address the consequences of a lack of emotional control would be:
The Secret Garden
Anne of Green Gables
Treasures in the Snow (there is a DVD also)
I know we have used other things too….just cannot think of them right now. If they come to mind I will post. Praying for you!