The SCM preschool guide mentions attention, obedience, and truthfulness as what CM found most important. In addition to that, I think consistency with a daily schedule is a big help for us. After a few days, they know what to expect and complain less…although it takes a lot of effort on my part to keep them in line!
I like to fix tantrums with some quiet time. A few minutes with low lights, no talking, sitting quietly on the couch can make a huge difference in their behavior.
I don’t think there is a quick fix. It’s a constant battle for them (and me). But I love CM’s attitude that we can change through good habits and it keeps me going!