You’re right, it’s not too late for your daughter! My kids have extensive vocabularies. In addition to reading aloud and listening to audio books I’ve never simplified my speech for them, and I’m always using whatever new word I just learned in our conversations. Not in a false sort of way, just when an instance comes up where my new word is a perfect fit. (I think it’s an adult form of narration for me.) So they’ve had a mom model using less common words when they fit more perfectly than the everyday word, but they’ve also had a mom model not knowing exactly how to say a word and use it anyway. We have mini conferences all the time in the middle of a conversation on how to pronounce a word that’s just come up. Usually someone will look it up out of curiosity. Sometimes we do the same if one of us isn’t 100% sure we’ve used a word correctly. I think it’s shown them that vocabulary building is a worthwhile, LIFELONG process. And while reading aloud (like CM says we are to do by carefully reproducing not ourselves but the author) comes naturally to me, I often have to pause and try a few different pronunciations of a word before I think I have it. And sometimes I’ve just modeled winging it and then looking up the pronunciation later. Or I may ask if anyone in the family knows the word, can explain it to the rest of us and help us pronounce it. Again showing how different life experiences and personal reading leads to us all knowing a different set of words. (In other words, there is no shame in having holes in your vocabulary.) My son is more political and so geographic phrases and historic social studies type-words he usually has a handle on; while my husband was immensely helpful in Johnny Tremain when it came to some of the trade jargon.
Our final ‘method’ of learning vocabulary has to do with context. We often talk about what we *think* a word means based on the rest of the sentence, paragraph, or conversation. Or we’ll compare it to all the similar words we know and decide it must be of the same vein. This has shown my kids that they really are capable of understanding words they’ve never had explained to them. Often after we discuss the context of a word, we will look it up to see how close we were. Tickled with ourselves if we did. Very rarely do we miss the mark entirely- but then we really do learn something new! And that’s just reinforced for my children how capable they are at deciphering our language. Oh, and we laugh off our errors. Each of us have funny little embarrassing stories of when we were using a word wrong, or pronouncing it in a crazy way. (Not uncommon to avid readers with a visual vocabulary larger than their auditory one.)
We’ve never learned vocabulary as a separate subject from living life. I can think of nothing that would kill my interest in it more, let alone theirs, then looking up words or defining them as part of a program. Besides, I may never, or not for a long time, need the artificially posed word but the word *I* want to know has already proven itself useful. And why should we use any sort of program or list when we come up against new words almost daily on our own?
One tip- we most often use our phones to look up words. It seems most natural to use the least cumbersome and handiest tool available while the audio pronunciations can’t be beat. And we are not an online, devicey family by any stretch of the imagination. In fact, as we contemplate further scaling back our already much limited screen time, I know the only way I can manage without a smart phone is if I have a pocket dictionary/thesaurus etc. (I just wanted to throw that in in case you envisioned us flipping open well worn dictionaries in the middle of a conversation. Nope!)
My children are eight years apart. As I am re-reading books to my daughter that I read to my son I can see for myself how much my vocabulary has improved by using these natural methods. What’s good for the goose is good for the goslings! Your kids have decades of educational growth left in them; don’t panic by counting down the years left at home- this is just their start!
Having your son want to go into a trade sounds like success to me! I would be spending his last months at home helping him narrow that interest down and he will learn all sorts of vocabulary this year- words most of us don’t know the meaning of! It might be time for an internship, or classes at a trade school, or just lots of field trips and days spent shadowing various tradesmen. He will learn everything he needs to for a trade he loves and then some. And the seeds you planted with a cm education along with the shelter provided him will produce fruit someday- I promise. He will not sit idle while he watches problems in his children’s education, he will know there are options and be able to build onto what you started. Our son looks like an academic success to people, Ivy League test scores and all- but we would have counted it as a triumph had he wanted to pursue a trade- and you should too! We did devote the last semester of his high school to an internship in a law office, because he’d worked manual labor on our farm for half his life and knew that path and the various branches well. Supporting him the way he’s bent has worked for us- just like my husband’s parents supported him when college was the last thing he wanted. My husband went to diesel mechanic school and that opened the doors and paved the way for him to begin his own farm. Twenty-five years later he’s one of our small town’s success stories- a city councilman, a respected member of many boards, and owner of several businesses. My husband could barely read Hank the Cowdog when he got out of high school. But when reading, reason, math, clear communication etc etc became necessary for his trade, he learned them. Your son will do the same!
Peace be with you, sweet mama. Be proud of your son, grateful for how capable he is going to be (and all the things he’ll be able to fix around the house!) and enjoy these last few years with your daughter. My daughter and I are absolutely reveling in all the girly ways we are able to enjoy our homeschool now that my son isn’t dividing my attention. I hope after your work day, studies with your girl become a delight you look forward to.
