I’m a naturally skilled speller as is my dd7. We just know by looking at a word whether it is correct or not. I never remembered all the “I before E except after C….” type of rules. (As a grammer gal, I have issues with those “rules” that are not die-hard, consistent rules at all, but rather suggestions for most of the time.). Anyway, as a beginning speller, I just looked at the word and if it didn’t look right, I changed it.
That is how I’m working with my daughter. We have been doing exercises where I give her mulitple choices of words (several, write, reading, scripture, place names… just random words that I know she has seen, or I compile them from a book she recently read) and she picks out the one that is spelled correctly. We also do a “drill” where I give her several commonly misspelled words and she fixes them. She can usually do these type of exercises really well on her own, but I make sure to walk her through as many as I can so she doesn’t feel overwhelmed or pressured. I just want her to have a natural affinity for words, spelling, grammar, etc, so I am trying hard to make it low-key, low-stress. I’ve been using a neat little worksheet book with her called “Very Very Vocabulary” for a year (very very sporadically, I might add) and she really enjoys it.
As far as how I’ll handle those rules with my daughter, I’ll probably touch on them briefly, but won’t require her to memorize them or explain how she knows a particular word is spelled correctly or incorrectly. I realize that she likely just “knows” whether it is right or not.
Bookworm – I also read dictionaries as a kid. Phonebooks, too. Church directories, instruction manuals, encyclopedias, yearbooks… any publication that I thought would reveal a typo! Even as a 10-year-old, I carried a red pen everywhere. 