how do you handle it..

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  • January 11, 2010 at 5:09 pm
    nerakr
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    This morning I got very angry with ds5. What do you do after you lose your temper to get yourself back into focus, back on track, that sort of thing? I’ve prayed about it, but for some reason just can’t get my focus back.

    January 11, 2010 at 6:33 pm
    mommy25
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    Been there, done that. 

    If I could humbly ask: did you apologize to your son? This is something that I am learning to do. I think letting them know that mommy sometimes messes up too can help to restore your relationship; and it also models for him what he should do too, when he does something wrong.

    I would nix “school” for the day; just have fun together, read a book etc….

    Tomorrow is a new day!Wink

     

    January 11, 2010 at 7:21 pm
    SCMconvert
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    I can relate too.  That was my first thought as well, apologizing (if you acted out of place).  I sometimes say, “Mommy has temper tantrums too… I’m really sorry.  I was upset because _____ but I shouldn’t have responded in this way”.  It is hard to get your focus back sometimes.  Whatever the subject you were doing when you got frustrated, I’d postpone it for the next day.  I was at a home school convention and the speaker (male) was commenting that his wife lost her temper on her child.  When he confronted her, she said, “YOU teach him this subject”.  He took over and before long, he found himself losing his temper too!  He said that it’s because we KNOW the child’s potential and everything in us wants them to succeed.  When they goof off or don’t give the effort, it bothers us as parents far more than it would a regular school teacher.

    Hang in there!

    January 11, 2010 at 8:33 pm
    nerakr
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    Yes, I did apologize to him, and I think he was over it almost immediately. He was asking why I was crying (that’s how mad I was) and wanted to sit on my lap. We weren’t even doing school when it happened. It was about something that has happened repeatedly during playtime. I told him the consequences for next time. And we were through with school for the day when it happened. I think a lot of it was guilt about how I overreacted.

    January 11, 2010 at 9:28 pm
    CindyS
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    I noticed that you told your son the consequences for next time; I think that’s great. So much sanity can come from having a plan. Now will be the test of consistency, which can be so difficult in the busyness of the day (at least for me!). It is also good to pray with our children, letting them hear us ask God for strength and wisdom.

    Blessings,

    Cindy

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