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Help needed -tears during school time
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I am a skimmer too as are all my kids. The way that has worked for us is to skim the book for the first read (we really want to know what happens and how the story ends that details aren’t important!). Once we finish the book we look over book discussion questions etc. and then re-read the book, the second reading is much slower as we savour the details as we already know the plot and ending. The first read is usually really fast so not a lot of time is “wasted” having to read the book twice! I don’t know how you could slow down the reading the first time through, I know I wouldn’t want to do that for myself.
I agree to encourage their strengths, but I do believe that trying to strengthen their weaknesses is prudent and helpful in helping round-out the person. Not to make them perfect, but to help them develop some balance and have less limitations. The world is not going to cater to our children and SOME attention to detail and being able to read visually without always reading out loud I think are skills for life. She’ll always have auditory as her main strength and use it the most, but I don’t think it’s wise to almost ignore the other areas of learning that are also needed at times in life.
Skimming isn’t a bad thing-I do it, too. It’s a useful thin to be able to do, but just like may things, it shouldn’t be used in all situations. Perhaps communicating that to her in that way, will make a difference in her attitude about it?
True, people choose vocational paths according to their strengths, but the character that is developed, as well as just having the option of being able to use other areas of ourselves – visual and kinesthetic – will prove useful.
Each of mine have strengths and weaknesses, too in their learning and personality styles, but I don’t want to teach my children to SELF-limit with comments like “I can’t…” just because it may be a little harder. Perseverence, self-discipline, and greater freedom due to independence (i.e. won’t depend upon others, like you, in this example) will be strengthened by endeavoring to strengthen an area of weakness.
If she has trouble narrating something after she’s read to herself, may I suggest you require her to only read a couple of paragraphs then narrate and gradually increase the reading time. Her reading amt. will increase and her confidence in her visual skills will too. Just in smaller increments. This is how I did it with my dd, whose attention skills and reading capabilities were in desperate need of training.
Think of it as just that-training. Exercise her weakness (i.e.visual reading) and it will get stronger. And don’t allow any self-defeating language, since that affects effort and outcome.
HTH
I think skimming is a great skill to have! If she can hone the skimming to being able to pick out more important info — recognize patterns in textbooks, etc — that could be greatly beneficial in college and throughout life. There were times in college when I struggled because I was *not* a good skimmer, but didn’t always have time (or make the time <ahem>) to keep up with all the various readings.
Interesting thread!
@Lishie I wasn’t sure what I was doing this year, so I bought the readers from Sonlight grade 3 my daughter is 8 and so I follow their schedule, which is usually a chapter. HTH
This is how I do not have to read them, but with their ?’s and answers in the guide, I can tell if she fully read it and comprehended by her narrations.
There is a wealth of information in this thread. I hope that others have enjoyed and benefited from it as much as myself!
Thank you for all the responses.
@Rachael – WELL SAID!
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