For the candles, remember the special way to put them in and the special way to light them. If you don’t know the reason for the tradition behind the order of putting them in and lighting them and why; it was a compromise between Hillel and Shammai-just before Y’shua’s time on earth, and it makes sense (we discussed it here and agree w/Hillel!). Look it up!
In specific answer to your question: the general “rule” is that the lights/candles should burn for a half-hour, longer on Shabbat; it is one of those traditions that you may or may not observe, however, it isn’t burdensome and Hanukkah candles are generally designed to stay lit for 30 min. anyway; the point is to observe and enjoy the lights, playing dreidal, opening presents, no housework, read a book, etc, in order to honor G-d and savor the lights in the darkness.
We just let ours burn down every night; ours are the skinny ones from Manischewitz that come 44 to a box.
I’d like to share a Chanuka toy set from KidKraft that is a wonderful tool for little ones to use-if you don’t want to pull together your own for them to play with- if you don’t want them handling fire and they can practice the blessings and songs with it. My son loves his (and he’s 11!) There’s also a Shabbat one for the little ladies to practice with before they get their own candle to light after age 12 as well as some others. They are pricey (gotta price shop), but long-lasting; we got ours years ago and they can pass them down to their children. Here’s some to see: http://www.woodentoddlertoys.com/chtoandgi1.html
I think french toast sounds great! Sounds like their own Maccabee skit will be great! My children did that when they were younger, too. I did a sprouted grain donut last year, but didn’t get around to sprouting this year, so here’s the donut recipe I’ll be using:http://heavenlyhomemakers.com/healthy-treat-for-today-whole-wheat-donuts
We’ve been at our Messianic Synagogue for 10 years; I drive 72 miles to get there weekly, so it still takes 1 1/4 hours. What state are you in? I’ll see what I can find. I’m taking it easy today!
Shalom,
Rachel