Amy – I had a similar experience with my ds. I started Cursive First with him, he did it in “grade” 1 and (a slightly different version) in grade2. His cursive was nice (assuming he was copying a sample….) – but anytime he was writing on his own, it was this horride pre-school non-taught print. And my daughter couldn’t even write a clear letter with the program we were using….
So – I did a bunch of thinking, etc – and we used Penny Gardner’s Italic handwriting program. The cool thing with it, is after you do the Italic Print, it is a small job to learn a few joins, and you have Italic cursive. I also suddenly realized that my handwriting is also Italics (well, roughly… I did the standard print in school – cursive in grade 3… and in grade 6 found a book my mom had bought, I guess to improve her own handwriting… and adjusted my handwriting with that…. so it tends to be a mix of all that!)
One thing that was cool with doing the Penny Gardner’s Italic program was that she has videos on Youtube… so I let HER teach the kids! They liked doing the video program… and it worked well.
My son’s writing is much better (a little less “impressive” than the cursive…). My daughter’s still needs some work – but when you consider I couldn’t get a single letter (in the style we were doing) last year – it is much improved.
Oh, I also found a free italics font – and a program that goes with the font to add in the joins if you need the italic handwriting. It isn’t identical to the “font” used by Penny Gardner – but it is close enough!