I have a friend who is struggling with marriage right now. She’s been married several years. She has, in the past, read many helpful resources on biblical marriage. Are there any other recent releases that I could point her to? I thought about Mark Driscoll’s new one but not sure.
What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage by Paul David Tripp is a newer release and excellent. Also, if she’s never read Created to be His Helpmeet by Debbie Pearl, I highly recommend it!
It isn’t new, but The Five Love Languages is very good and a great way to boost your marriage. My DH and I read it every now and again. It always tends to open our eyes to ways that we could show our love to eachother better. And remind us that it isn’t how we are treated but how we are treating.
If they can go to a Famliy Life marriage conference “Weekend to Remember” – those are AWESOME – my husband and I are going to our third one and we’ve been married 10 years. A little more economical option and more accessible – they can visit http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnFoG/b.6350291/k.6605/Attend_The_Art_of_Marriage.htm#search and find an Art of Marriage video conference held at a local church. So it’s not a book, but it gets BOTH members of the marriage involved and on the same page and is WELL worth the investment – kind of like a tune-up for your car, don’t wait til it’s broken to give it some attention.
A great devotion for couples is “Becoming One: Quiet Times for Every Couple” by Greg Laurie. It is worth trying to find a copy and the best we have ever done as a couple.
A second thought is that if her husband is not going to be reading the book also, she may want to consider a book that is just for wives… Created to be his Helpmeet by Debi Pearl if she likes “direct” instruction (I do!) Or if she needs it put a bit more gently, then I have a friend that suggested The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace – my friend is more sensitive and has read both and said they have the same information, but it’s put more gently in the later. If her husband isn’t doing things to try to improve the marriage, then it may be frustrating to read a book that’s directed at both partners whereas “Created to be His Helpmeet” gives solely the wife every possible correction she could need to improve the situation on her own (with the Lord’s help!).
I highly recommend any material by Jimmy Evans. He is the head of a ministry called Marriage Today that puts out books and resources and even hosts a TV show. We have been to several of his conferences and seminars and have always walked away with new knowledge and motivation. He also has a CD series entitled Every Great Marriage that is wonderful. Marriage on the Rock is the first book of his we read as a couple and that was during our pre-marriage counseling almost 10 year ago. We have also used his book Mountaintop of Marriage for the vision retreats my hubby and I take to cast vision and planning for the upcoming year for our marriage, family, finances, and goals.
He is the senior elder at our church, Trinity Fellowship, so we hear him speak on an almost weekly basis. He is one of the best teachers we’ve ever heard (on marriage and many other topics), and I’m not just saying that because he’s my pastor. When we were attending a different church, we would sneak away on Saturday nights to attend Trinity just to hear Pastor Jimmy preach. We are now privileged to call Trinity our church home, and my husband is on staff there. I highly recommend any and all of his materials!
I guess the real question is what aspect of marriage is she having trouble with? I’m sure that someone here is hitting on something appropriate for her situation. There are so many books and so many perspectives depending on what seems to be the greatest issue. A couple on Biblical womanhood with good material for wives are: “Feminine Appeal: Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother” by Carolyn Mahaney, and one I recently start but am enjoying, “The Resolution for Women” by Pricilla Shrier. “The Love Dare” might also be an option if appropriate.