I had my second child 2 months ago and I’m a bit discouraged to still have a belly pooch. I gained the same amount of weight (just under 30 pounds) with both pregnancies and I breastfeed. Last time I believe I was back to normal by now but I moved to Africa and had parasites so maybe that’s why…
So I have 2 questions…
1. How long does it usually take you to lose your belly and extra weight?
2. What do you do to get back into/ stay in shape?
I’d like to know and I have had 3 kids and my youngest is 4! I’m exercising using P90X and trying not to eat too many carbs and bad fats (and desserts).
Dana, please don’t be too hard on yourself. Women’s bodies can be very different. Some women do quickly go back to pre-baby size after every baby, but I must say, my body did not. First time, I snapped back, next time, was much harder, by baby #3, people were still asking me if I was pregnant when he was 6, and it wasn’t my weight. Just my shape had changed. Frustrating for me. I tried doing about a gazillion situps and various things, but even when my weight is healthy and I am in decent shape, I still have a tummy. I’ve decided it’s my reminder that God let me have babies, and I just decided to quit worrying about it. I still have a sister who insists if I did more ab work it’d go away, but she is childless and I just got to a day when I decided life was too short to spend an hour a day on ab exercises, when my weight was healthy and I was exercising normally. I think healthy bodies are really important. I think Hollywood inspired bodies are NOT and trying to compare myself to others, or to my 26 year old self, was just silly. I’m not a 26 year old anymore, I’m a middle-aged mom who has had three ten-pound-plus babies and I probably SHOULDN’T look like some celebrity. Or like me before kids. I need to accept me now.
SO. Give yourself more time than after the first baby. Focus on your health more than on your measurements. By all means eat reasonably and find exercise that works for you. You may need to accept a “new normal” and that’s OK.
I agree with Bookworm, don’t be hard on yourself. After each, it took a longer and longer time for me to get back to “normal.” I am a naturally thin person, but by the time #4 came, I do have a permanent pouch. Honestly, I don’t care. If we’re dressing modestly, no one will notice anyway. Every person’s body is different, and each pregnancy affects your body differently, as well. Just exercise, eat right, and just live – if it’s meant to go away, it will. But God made your body to work exactly the way it does, even if for some people that means they have to work harder to keep it under control and for others they don’t. I wouldn’t stress. Again, like Bookworm said, we aren’t childless teens or 20-somethings anymore. We are mothers. (((hugs)))
I agree with Bookworm, I have only had the twin girls and prior to getting pregnant I was skinny as a rail – post pregnancy I suddenly had a chest and more than I wanted, a pooch and whole different shape which was a shock to me considering I was only pregnant for 6 months! Anyway, I tried and tried for a while, then decided to love my new curvaceous self:)) I do look in the mirror sometimes and wonder where all that new stuff came from!! Linda
I have 7 kids and between them I didn’t really work on it. This time I am. I have gone off all sugar, things that turn into sugar and the hard thing. I needed to do the hard thing this time. I also am working out everyday (but Sunday). I am getting closer but my baby is now just 1 and I’m still not there. I know it’s hard but take baby steps and work your way up (or I should say down) to what you want to be at. And as Bookworm said, remember your body changes. Be patient and things will get to a new good. Misty
Agree with all of the above. I would add that you are only 2 months past the birth, and that is considered “fourth trimester” period for you and baby. Lots of hormonal changes still going on, and your body is just trying to heal and adjust. Usually around 6 months is a good time to consider excercise and lowering weight. I am short and petite, 5’2″, 100 pounds. I’ve had 4 huge babies and it always took me a good 6 months to return to feeling normal, especially while nursing.
Eat healthy, drink lots of water, and take walks outside when you can.
We have some things in common, dmmcall3! I also have a DS3 and a baby DD (she just turned four months). 🙂
The advice I share with my birth students is, “It took you nine months to put the weight on so allow yourself nine months to take it off.” That worked for me with my son and that’s my plan now…although I have to admit that it came off a little quicker with baby #1 than it is with baby #2. (I gained 48 pounds with each kid.)
I love simplehome’s advice of “eat healthy, drink lots of water, and take walks outside when you can.” Best wishes and congrats on your baby!
Journey1000miles, congratulations on your sweet family too!
Thanks everybody for your advice! I’ll try to focus on health and relax my expectations. 🙂
You know I *do* wonder how our husbands *really* feel about our body’s changes over the years… Anyone else worry about that at all? My husband says I’m attractive to him but really what else is he going to say? I guess being influenced by celebrity images makes me wonder if he is too. Anyone else?
I agree that babies change our shape and even the chemical balance in our bodies. If you have exercised and are still dealing with a pouch, it could be that trying T-Tapp might help you where other exercises have failed. Please understand that I am overweight and have been for most of my life. I have also done T-Tapp in an on again, off again fashion. While I am not even doing the whole 15 minute routine at this point, I am begun to consistently do the hoe-downs in the morning and at night as well as doing wall push-ups due to shoulder issues. When I am consistent with this, I can visibly see a difference in the way my body looks and so does my husband, so I know it’s not all in my head. Will this work for you? I don’t know. However, you can go to Theresa Tapp’s site and see some of the exercises right there before you order any AND I believe that hoe-downs is one that is shown. Start with that one, give it a week, and see if you can tell any difference – even if it’s not visible, do your clothes fit better/ differently. That’s a cost efficient method to test it out, if nothing else.
Jacquleene, thanks for the T-Tapp reminder! I used to be better about it and have been struggling to exercise and totally forgot I owned it. I love that 15 min. is doable…much easier to get in a routine for me. Thanks:) Gina
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