Titus2mama, I don’t know how long you’ve been homeschooling, but we are year 4. We’ve had good days and bad days (and good weeks and bad weeks) during all of our school years, and I think that’s totally normal and should be expected. Honestly, I feel like this year has been our best yet. I felt that about last year, too. The longer we do this, the more comfortable we all feel and the better it gets. Now, I feel like our school days are our best days; it’s the days we have breaks or holidays that I actually miss school time and the structure it gives our entire day. It’s like school sets the tone for the day for us. That may not be a very practical answer for you today, but I just wanted to let you know that, yes, it will “click” and yes, you will have more good days than bad days. It takes time and practice and lots and lots of prayer and coffee!
I never seem to get to EVERYTHING I’d like to get done. Some days are just going to be rough and frustrating…esp. if you have younger children. I’m finding that the older my kids get the easier it gets…they can get up and do their thing whether I’m on the ball or not:) I’ve also discovered that if we can start earlier in the day it’s a huge difference…not generally morning people here! The groove will become more and more regular as you go…hope you feel it soon:) Blessings, Gina
Michelle, blessings to you w/a houseful of kids! I can’t imagine all that needs to get done each day. The families I know w/the size of yours have wonderful children that learn so much just from being a part of a large family that will help them in adulthood. I’m sure your kids are learning the same:) Blessings, Gina
the Bible Study I am doing right now has been amazing. What I have learned is, that unless you are doing something unto the Lord, it is never going to work how you want, you wont get the results or reactions you want. When this is happening (for me with parenting) I just need to step back, and see if i am doing it unto the Lord and for him. Or if I am doing it for me/my kids/ my husband.
am I cleaning to get a “wow great job sweetie” from my husband (then being upset because he didnt respond that way, or even notice). or am I cleaning so that I take care of our home, trying to be the Proverbs 31 woman that Christ wants us all to be.
Im not saying your focus is off. Just that sometime we need to sit back and look at our motives
Along the lines of the “Proverbs 31 Woman”, my sister-in-law passed this article along to me a few weeks ago. It has totally changed my perspective on the meaning of Proverbs 31. Now, this passage no longer makes me feel inadequate or like I need to compare myself to this great lady. I feel a sense of fulfillment, knowing that what I am doing as a wife, mother, woman, friend, daughter, lover, and person is ENOUGH. I hope it encourages you all!
P.S. I haven’t watched the 2 videos at the beginning because I wanted to get to the meat of the text. Also, I’m not sure they have much to do with the article.
Kayla, a different way of thinking along the same lines you mentioned…
Man makes his plans but the Lord orders his steps. If we are doing our work as unto the Lord, that doesn’t necessarily equal smooth and easy days. Even the rough ones were ordered by God, not necessarily a result of my wrong attitude (it could have been someone else’s, or no bad attitude at all, just circumstances!). If we can accept the days we feel like it all went to pot as part of him sanctifying us, knowing that He had a purpose for whatever “messed up” we can feel like it was less of a failure than we thought and acknowledge His sovereignty over it. Not necessarily making us feel all rosy and happy, the day still was a flop of sorts, but gives us a different perspective that at least it was a purposeful flop – and reflect on it looking for what good may have come from it. And when we start the next day we can just pick back up, remembering that his blessings are new every morning 🙂