It is absolutely important and vital to our welfare as believers to abstain from every appearance of evil. Not only do we want to portray a bad or false witness to the outside world, but we also do not want to give the enemy a stronghold of any type in our hearts or minds. Phil. 4:8 is the standard by which we measure everything in our house, so I think we all agree on that issue.
My issue, however, is with us not preparing our children sufficiently for the world in which they will inevitably live. That is why, in my first post, I said there comes a point when we have to have confidence in what we have trained and taught our children to believe and allow them to choose for themselves. As much as I might want to, I cannot control what my children choose once they are no longer living under my authority. Nevertheless, I can control what they are exposed to and when during their time with me, so as to facilitate discussions that point toward the Bible and an abundant life in Christ.
I know, at some point, my child (whether young or adult) will be exposed to something I don’t want them to see, or read something that doesn’t line up with our beliefs. We live in the world! Think of all the sin Christ Himself was exposed to during His short time on earth: prostitution, legalism, the defilement on the temple, the list goes on and on. He could have fallen into those traps just as easily as you or I because of His humanness. Instead, He chose differently. He longed to do the will of His Father in heaven. He had been raised by godly parents, learned of God’s Word as a boy in the synagogue, and spent countless hours alone with His Father in prayer and fasting. He was prepared for the world He came to save. He had a strong foundation to be able to resist evil.
I believe we can create that strong foundation for our children as well, but not at the expense of cloistering them their entire lives. How can our children ever have a defense for their beliefs if their beliefs are never challenged? It would be unfair to allow my child to marry, leave my home, and not give him or her the needed tools to live on their own. I would rather they find out about the evils of witchcraft under my guidance and careful supervision and learn how to discern the truths from the lies than be exposed to it unprepared in an unprotected environment. We must prepare them for the sinful world which they will eventually be a part.
It is my strong but very humble opinion (and not meaning to upset or offend anyone) that Christianity is not something we can hide behind our entire lives. Yes, we stay true to our beliefs, our faith, and our Lord, but we cannot shut the doors and hide from the world forever. Neither can our children. I do not believe Christ wants us to live that way. The moment we accepted Christ into our hearts, we bore the responsibility of a mission to minister to a lost and hurting world. How can we minister to that world if we are not familiar with it? Likewise, how can our children?
Jesus spent His three years of ministry training the twelve men to be like Him. He used that time to teach them truth, to identify sin, to build their faith, and to prepare them to go out and do the things He did, and even greater things (John 14:12). That is exactly what I am called to as a parent. It is my job to teach and prepare; but ultimately it is up to my children to make a choice for or against Christ, to follow His Word or not. I can shelter them, hide them, not allow TV or literature or anything but the Bible in our home, but it is ultimately up to them to choose for themselves whom they will serve. I believe I owe it to them to make an informed decision on their own.
This has been much longer than I intended, but the more I think on it, the more passionate I become about this subject. Whether we read Narnia or HP or LOTR or anything else, we open ourselves and our children up to, not become influenced this way or that way, but to learn to discern truth from lie, to be able to defend their faith, and to be ready to preach the Word in season and out of season, to convince, exhort, and rebuke with all longsuffering and teaching (1. Tim. 4:2).
I hope you all read this in the manner in which it was intended. I do speak this in love and humility, knowing that God can use this conversation and you ladies to bring about Truth in my own life.
Blessings,
Lindsey