Family issue to pray about

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  • July 25, 2013 at 4:05 pm
    Sue
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    In the midst of continually seeking God for help with homeschooling 2 teens & 1 near-teen, coping with a difficult marital separation/situation, dealing with an autistic son with behavioral issues, and helping out my elderly dad, I now have to face the possibility of dementia in my 86-year old dad. We live with him, and over the past few months, my sister & I have noticed an increase in his forgetfulness and occasional confusion over things.

    I have to figure out how to bring this up at his next doctor’s appointment. With all of our “privacy laws” in health care, I don’t think I can talk to the doctor privately, but I don’t know how my dad will handle such a discussion. As expected, he is adamant that he does not have a big problem with this, especially since he’s always been a little forgetful.

    The whole notion just makes me very sad, and I am beginning to feel as though I might not be able to handle this. My sister, who is 6 years older than me, already thinks it’s ridiculous for me to homeschool my kids & she tends to treat me like the less-than-competent baby sister….even though I’m 53! 

    This is going to be hard, very hard. Would you all please pray for us? Thank you.

    July 25, 2013 at 4:12 pm
    missceegee
    Participant

    I’m so sorry, Sue. You have a lot on your plate. I will pray.

    July 25, 2013 at 4:51 pm
    revwife
    Participant

    I’ll be praying for you and your family.

    July 25, 2013 at 5:01 pm
    journey1000miles
    Participant

    Prayers for your family. We had relatives in this situation and they delivered a letter to the doctor (asking for discretion) prior to the appointment so the doctor could ask helpful questions. Best wishes!

    July 25, 2013 at 5:12 pm
    sheraz
    Participant

    I’ll pray, Sue. Perhaps you could write a discrete note to the doctor…

    You’re one of the best reasons I have enjoyed this forum – I totally enjoy your sense of humor. 😉

    July 25, 2013 at 7:51 pm
    momto2blessings
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    Praying for you and your family, sorry so much going on.

    July 25, 2013 at 8:07 pm
    Al.C.Bradley
    Member

    So sorry to hear all of that. Sometimes life can be just oh so rough, and to people who don’t deserve it. I just always try to tell myself it’s because God thinks I’m strong enough to handle it, no matter how dismal the situation might seem. I’m sure you’re very competent! Just know you’re doing your best.

    You’ll be in my prayers. Keep us updated.

    July 25, 2013 at 9:24 pm
    peterfam
    Participant

    Prayers for you and your family.

    July 26, 2013 at 12:14 pm
    TailorMade
    Participant

    I’m parting for you and hopeful there will be a window for discussion that will bless you and your father.

    July 26, 2013 at 2:16 pm
    Sue
    Participant

    Thank you all for your prayers. I was thinking about calling the doctor ahead of time, but I wasn’t sure I would “get past” his front desk. I hadn’t thought about sending a letter. I think that’s a good idea.

    @sheraz, Sorry I haven’t supplied much humor lately….just too busy & a little self-absorbed (more like “family-absorbed”) in recent days. However, I haven’t failed to use my sense of humor at home.

    Example: yesterday, I picked up my kids from their dad’s & took them for a picnic dinner in our local park system. While there, we hiked along a path by a lagoon. We were all just hanging out in one place like it was our own outdoor living room; one was sitting on a huge fallen tree trunk, another was several feet up in a tree, and the third found a thick vine hanging down to swing on. The lure of the vine was too much for me….and my kids were just cracking up at the sight of Mom trying to pick up both feet at the same time in order to swing on the vine. (My oldest said I looked like I was trying to “duck walk” about 2 feet above ground, LOL!)

    July 26, 2013 at 6:44 pm
    blue j
    Participant

    Praying!!!  In a similar situation re: dementia. Dh’s mom, who is irascible and stubborn, is having a lot of episodes.  On top of that there are other health issues that are, in part, self-inflicted. We, that is dh and I, are not happy with her Dr. at. all.  I will leave it at that because he is on my hit parade of irate ranting right now.  MIL is back in the hospital as of this morning, so need to get my act together, figure out logistics, run errands, and be prepared to relieve SIL late this afternoon/ evening.

    Wasn’t trying to hijack, just empathizing.

    ((Sue))

    Pax,

    ~jacqleene

    July 28, 2013 at 4:40 am
    Sue
    Participant

    Jacqleene, I’m glad you jumped in to empathize. I’m just a little concerned for the future, both for my dad’s quality of life (and how he perceives it) and for how it will impact my time, energy, and focus on my children. Especially since I have an autistic son who needs quite a bit of attention, I fear that this will just be more than I can handle. We live with my dad & my sister does not, plus she has a full-time job (unlike me, lol, in her opinion).

    Have you had a lot more heaped on your plate because of your MIL’s health? How have you coped with it?

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