CM Method and State Regulations

So I am very interested in the CM method of teaching. However I am so lost in the matter of making her method work for us AND meeting state requirements.

Our state (KY) requires Reading, Writing, Spelling, Grammar, History, Mathematics, Science and Civics.

CM suggested to wait until 4th grade for Grammar, Spelling, etc. I personally think this is a great idea.

My daughter is 5 years old and knows how to read pretty well and loves to. But… We struggle and cry often over special sounds and phonics rules and things of that nature. She loves learning and school work but has high stress over perfection and being right or wrong. We currently use Abeka which is great in the way that she loves doing packets but I have noticed that so much more than that she loves being outside and being creative and art, music and hands on learning… So now we have around 100 lessons left in this premade traditional style curriculum that leaves us angry, discouraged, stressed and stretched with minimal joy through it. She has learned a lot but it has been so emotionally and mentally taxing on us. I fear it is not worth the pain and damage it is causing my joyful, creative, loving daughter. It does not nurture the qualities I’m trying to instil in my child. I want to raise her up in the way of the Lord. But to this point if only taught frustration and negative qualities… I have been so concerned with meeting state requirements that I have overlooked the most important task at hand, raising this gift from God in his ways teaching IMPORTANT skills and letting the rest follow. I DON’T CARE IF SHE CAN SPELL SCRAPE AT 5 YEARS OLD OR THAT SHE KNOWS ALL THE PHONICS RULES. (I don’t even know them, but I can read well). I want to steward her heart/soul first then educate through a LIFE of learning.

Please help me understand how to do what is required of me by meeting God’s expectations and abiding by our local laws.