Hi heatherma,
Take a deep breath, and another, etc… It is easy to get caught up in which of this and what of that, but I’ve learned a couple of things. Accept that you will buy or use something that you later decide against for some reason. Less can really be more.
Specifically, I used SWR to teach my dd 8 to read and Cursive First at age 5 for her. SWR is very effective, but time intensive. i spent over 2 months, just figuring out how to teach it and I’m a natural with reading/phonics.
There are a couple of other programs that use O-G phonograms and approach that are much easier to teach and can be just as effective. I’ve bought and used them all –
Phonics Road to Spelling and Reading by Barbara Beers. (Expensive; has dvd of Barbara teaching all lessons; probably the most like SWR, but definitely easier to teach; open and go)
Writing Road to Reading (this is what all of the others are based upon; my dear friend used this and I really don’t know how she did it)
LEM Phonics based in Australia (I’ve used this most recently and love it for the most part. Some differences in pronouncing some words, but easily figured out; expensive to ship to USA; I like the workbooks that go with it, esp.)
All About Spelling (my newest purchase; very hands on; the easiest of all to teach; focus is spelling, but easy to carry over to reading; adorable readers to go with it; inexpensive; the author is very accessible for questions.) I plan to start this with dd8 and ds5 soon (8yo is a good solid reader, 5yo is just learning to put phonogram sounds together.)
I do like Cursive First, though I wish it were in a simple workbook format. I hate making copies. I’m a believer in teaching cursive first!
I’ve sold my copy of Phonics Road and plan to sell my SWR soon.
Hope that helps,
Christie